I don't know if you all mean it that way, but this discussion of whether there are "real" bisexuals makes me nervous. There's so much ignorance and biphobia out there. People automatically think it's a phase, or fake or you're doing it for a man or one day you'll discover your true self. I lost friends years ago when I had to come out again as "bi" -- the identity wasn't available to me when I was young. You were either straight or lesbian. Being able to say I was "queer" was a revelation and much more of a political position, which I liked. What I really hate is the stereotype of bisexuals being "easy" and only interested in sex. I think it's partly the cultural stereotype that's driving some of the behavior. There are all types of behavior of all sorts in every sexual orientation, at least from my personal experience. The most macho controlling person I was ever with was a butch lesbian!
I think this is not a problem with "bisexual" as a label, but the way that we're forced to create identities based on who we fuck and who we are romantically involved with. I think your questions are fair Black Unicorn, you want to know if someone's playing with your attraction. But I don't think those are exclusive questions for bi folks.
I think this is not a problem with "bisexual" as a label, but the way that we're forced to create identities based on who we fuck and who we are romantically involved with. I think your questions are fair Black Unicorn, you want to know if someone's playing with your attraction. But I don't think those are exclusive questions for bi folks.