OpenandCountry
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As an OT I would point out that I do think that T is an even more forgotten letter, in many occasions.
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Very true.
As an OT I would point out that I do think that T is an even more forgotten letter, in many occasions.
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As an OT I would point out that I do think that T is an even more forgotten letter, in many occasions.
Okay, I have a question which I don't think really needs a thread of its own, and I think this thread might be the best place to post it.
I've been corresponding with a guy who contacted me at a dating site for the last two weeks or so. He indicates himself as Bisexual in his profile, and he told me that he considers himself Bi because he doesn't mind "how close he gets to another man's cock" when he's in a threesome, but he's not attracted to other men. Mind you, he's talking about one threesome he had in college many years ago, and he's always approached all his other sexual experiences as straight. But he feels that because most straight guys are so "afraid of coming near another man's junk," the fact that he is not homophobic and wasn't weirded out by that means he's Bi.
I told him that I've known straight guys who would not be uncomfortable next to another man's equipment during a threesome and still consider themselves straight. I said that if I see "bisexual" in a guy's profile, I assume he is sexually attracted to other men as well as women and is open to or welcomes the opportunity to have sex with either -- not just that dicks don't bother him in group sex settings. Am I wrong?
From what I understand, maybe the word "queer" would suit this man better. The site we're on does have that as a choice. I'm not trying to tell him whatever label he is happy with is wrong or anything. I am just looking at the assumption I make when I see Bisexual in a guy's profile, and wondering if I'm off-base in my understanding of what that means, because when I do a search at these sites, I generally search for straight guys.
Any thoughts?
Weird, cuz if this guy labels himself as Bi on the dating site, what does he do when he get responses from men? (Obviously they're gonna be pretty disappointed!)
I too am curious what he tells the guys who contact him.
... bi just doesn't mean "not afraid of penises".
Or, worrying whether I was macho enough, rich enough, tall enough, smooth enough, marriage-material enough, etc. etc.
There`s a great interview by one of my idols, Camille Paglia (although, I was disappointed lately when I saw an interview in which she said she "worshiped nature"; she was so perfect! ) in which she said she empathizes with men, and how terribly she floundered with women.I've never really given much thought to how much pressure men feel while dating women. I mean, I've always focused on comparing myself with other women, and have only recently realized men do those kind of calculations in their heads too .