kizmet74
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To start, my husband and I are looking for another man and woman for a polyfidelitous roshambo, possibly Bros tho relationship (MFMF, MFFM).
My husband started talking with another woman about 5-6 months ago. At first she was chatty and playful, and says she's looking for the same thing we are. She insists more than four would be too many. After about a month, they decided that they'd be BF/GF pending meeting in person and she was interested in me as well. Shortly after that, she got less and less chatty and almost always bummed saying she was lonely, had no one, and no friends.
We started trying to make plans to go meet her but she was always busy with something else. Then at about 3 months, she started trying to rush us, telling us if we were going to meet we had to do it soon tho she couldn't help with gas money, she also wouldn't help make plans.
We were finally able to get together and meet. We had a good time and didn't leave till 7am the next morning. However, while we were there she continually gave him mixed signals. She would act like and even say she wanted to go further than originally planned. But when he'd move closer to her or even touch her hand, she'd pull away. When he asked her about it the next day, she said she was playing hard to get, that she likes consensual "rape". We, personally, feel that shouldn't be a part of a first date. That sort of play should come later, when a relationship is established.
Since then, we have suggested twice going back out there. First, we were going to pay for everything again. She made excuses why she couldn't. Later, my husband said something to her about going if we had the gas money. She had it, but bought a dildo with it instead. She still insists she wants to be with us tho but only shows it when he says something to her about moving on.
Now mind you, I'd given up on her long ago. I lost interest when she quit being so chatty. My husband, for some reason, is more persistent. I see what I would consider red flags of disinterest. Lack of talking to him but flirting with other men in our Kik group, not using the intro card she asked me to make for her that includes all three of us, ads posted looking for other men with no mention of having a BF or even that he might be a possible 4th, making excuses not to meet up.
My question is, am I just reading it all wrong? Is it all the yrs of being monogamous? Or would he be better off moving on? I feel that if you are interested in a fidelitous relationship of any sort with someone, you should make sure that relationship is solid before trying to add more right off. Am I wrong in thinking this way?
My husband started talking with another woman about 5-6 months ago. At first she was chatty and playful, and says she's looking for the same thing we are. She insists more than four would be too many. After about a month, they decided that they'd be BF/GF pending meeting in person and she was interested in me as well. Shortly after that, she got less and less chatty and almost always bummed saying she was lonely, had no one, and no friends.
We started trying to make plans to go meet her but she was always busy with something else. Then at about 3 months, she started trying to rush us, telling us if we were going to meet we had to do it soon tho she couldn't help with gas money, she also wouldn't help make plans.
We were finally able to get together and meet. We had a good time and didn't leave till 7am the next morning. However, while we were there she continually gave him mixed signals. She would act like and even say she wanted to go further than originally planned. But when he'd move closer to her or even touch her hand, she'd pull away. When he asked her about it the next day, she said she was playing hard to get, that she likes consensual "rape". We, personally, feel that shouldn't be a part of a first date. That sort of play should come later, when a relationship is established.
Since then, we have suggested twice going back out there. First, we were going to pay for everything again. She made excuses why she couldn't. Later, my husband said something to her about going if we had the gas money. She had it, but bought a dildo with it instead. She still insists she wants to be with us tho but only shows it when he says something to her about moving on.
Now mind you, I'd given up on her long ago. I lost interest when she quit being so chatty. My husband, for some reason, is more persistent. I see what I would consider red flags of disinterest. Lack of talking to him but flirting with other men in our Kik group, not using the intro card she asked me to make for her that includes all three of us, ads posted looking for other men with no mention of having a BF or even that he might be a possible 4th, making excuses not to meet up.
My question is, am I just reading it all wrong? Is it all the yrs of being monogamous? Or would he be better off moving on? I feel that if you are interested in a fidelitous relationship of any sort with someone, you should make sure that relationship is solid before trying to add more right off. Am I wrong in thinking this way?