Good morning all,
My partner is poly, I'm non-monogamous. We live together. She is open to having serious relationships with others and has fallen in love with others a few times since we've been together. I'm interested in having friends with benefits without falling in love, and I've had a few since we've been together. We're both ok with each other's needs and choices.
When she falls in love, she falls hard. It's a very emotional time for her and I've always been able to stand by her and be supportive through it all, difficult break-ups included.
Now, she's fallen in love with someone with whom a future is impossible for a number of serious reasons. Even though she hasn't known this person for very long, she's become very despondent about the fact that she cannot freely pursue this relationship. It's starting to overshadow our own relationship - she's talking about taking time off work to go live with that person for a couple of months (this is a long-distance relationship) to see if they can work something out.
I love her and want to be supportive and I don't wish to restrict her freedom, but I feel that she's a little delusional (she describes herself has "really fucked up right now".)
How have you dealt or would you deal with a situation like this?
My partner is poly, I'm non-monogamous. We live together. She is open to having serious relationships with others and has fallen in love with others a few times since we've been together. I'm interested in having friends with benefits without falling in love, and I've had a few since we've been together. We're both ok with each other's needs and choices.
When she falls in love, she falls hard. It's a very emotional time for her and I've always been able to stand by her and be supportive through it all, difficult break-ups included.
Now, she's fallen in love with someone with whom a future is impossible for a number of serious reasons. Even though she hasn't known this person for very long, she's become very despondent about the fact that she cannot freely pursue this relationship. It's starting to overshadow our own relationship - she's talking about taking time off work to go live with that person for a couple of months (this is a long-distance relationship) to see if they can work something out.
I love her and want to be supportive and I don't wish to restrict her freedom, but I feel that she's a little delusional (she describes herself has "really fucked up right now".)
How have you dealt or would you deal with a situation like this?
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