Hi Bella999,
Re (from OP):
How does he pay for his apartment when he doesn't have a job?
Re (from Bella999's wife):
As far as I know, it goes something like this:
I don't know. I guess that is something for you and your husband to decide.
Re:
That sounds reasonable.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
Re (from OP):
"He has no job, no car, dingy apartment ..."
How does he pay for his apartment when he doesn't have a job?
Re (from Bella999's wife):
"Please educate me as to what really defines poly?"
As far as I know, it goes something like this:
- Polyamory = "the state of being, or the ability and/or inclination to be, in a romantically-connected group of more than two adults, with the full knowledge and consent of all the adults in the group."
- Polyamorous = "practicing, inclined toward, or having to do with, polyamory."
- Polyamorist = "one who is practicing, or who is inclined toward, polyamory."
- Poly = "polyamory, polyamorous, or polyamorist."
"Is it a bigger betrayal that my husband was not there for me when my dad was passing or is it a bigger betrayal that I had sex with my best friend and my husband didn't know about it?"
I don't know. I guess that is something for you and your husband to decide.
Re:
"Regarding this issue, because my husband has not agreed to my choice, I am agreeing to stop the sexual relationship with my friend, but I still want to see him as we did before sex started. My husband is agreeing to that."
That sounds reasonable.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.