Married Poly couple in South Carolina seeking female

ThomasMarie

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Hi everyone we are a married couple. We have been together for 5+ years. We are new to poly however we have talked about it in depth (over a year) and have decided that we would both be happier adding a female to our relationship. (Yes I know its a long shot).

We live in South Carolina. We both love animals and children, we have animals (dogs, cats and horses) but sadly no children of our own yet (hopefully one day). So children and pets are definitely not a problem for us! We enjoy the outdoors, hunting, fishing, riding horses, riding ATVs, floating the river and so much more. We would love for any potential partner to enjoy some of these things as well. We aren't judgmental and any female that is interested must be open minded as well.

We aren't looking for just sex or someone who isn't 100% okay/comfortable/confident with the terms of a triad/throuple relationship. We don't want games or drama. We want a laid back, honest and loving woman who wants to be loved by two people.

*Note there are some things that I will inform any interested ladies of, nothing major just some personal details that need to be discussed up front. Honesty is the best policy.
 
Greetings ThomasMarie,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You seem like a healthy and wholesome couple, and I am hopeful that you will find that special lady for you. You might want to try OKCupid, it is also poly-friendly. Good luck!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Hi and welcome to the forum! We will look forward to hearing more of your story as it evolves. We do have a number of experienced poly folks here who are generally helpful and friendly so please do not hesitate to post any specific questions and thoughts that you might have. Our guidelines do indicate that each individual should have an account, and it is nice to know who we are talking to - so is it Thomas or Marie that will be posting?

While the general public perception of poly - and the model that many married couples who open their marriages have in mind - is the FMF triad where a married couple adds another (usually bisexual) female to their marriage, discussion and experience here and elsewhere has shown that this is actually the least common and least stable of poly configurations. MFM V's are actually more common and more stable, but the most common and stable arrangement for married couples in a long term poly relationship is the one where each partner dates independently (but with the knowledge and consent of all concerned).

While "adding" a partner seems at first glance to be a very logical way to open a marriage, there are numerous issues that arise upon deeper inspection. First, the women who are willing to be in such a long term relationship (other than a "swinger type" casual and occasional sexual threesome) are so rare that they are referred to as unicorns (i.e. virtually mythical). In addition to this logistical issue, there are numerous ethical issues that quickly become apparent. To better understand these issues, I highly recommend the this well written, respectful, and intelligent article on the subject:

https://davidlnoble.livejournal.com/176039.html

This is not to say that it is impossible to achieve such a triad, but finding a partner with whom all 3 are compatible with one another, and establishing a long term ethical relationship would be very challenging.

Best of luck on your journey!

Al
 
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Hi. This looks to be a cut and paste of the ad you put up in the Dating section. This section of the forums is more for questions and discussions relative to poly. Doing a forum search on "unicorn hunting" may prove valuable to you.
 
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