I need advice on how to make my requests during an upcoming negotiation with my wife. We have always been non-monogamous, but during a time of my depression for me, she got a GF. no discussion before hand or frankly, even since then.
I have no idea what our relationship boundries are. and I have no desire to fall in love with the people I sleep with, mostly friends with benefits.
I have no idea how to non-consentually be in a poly relationship. My wifes GF (who has borderline personality disorder, to further complicate this BS) and I were friends before this all started. As was GF's partner. that is all shot to hell now.
I have no idea what to do. I read MOre than One at the advice of my kink aware therapist (vital not to have to explain non-monogamy to a therapist and not have them already have a bad attitude.)
unfortunately that book disses non-monogamy.
I want good friends that we fuck ot threesomes we pick up. I want to set a boundry that if she feels that intense falling in love feeling that she will walk away and come talk to me. And ABSOLUTELY no borderlines. that incredible up down anger charming depressed suicidal happy charming anger thing is not for me and I don't want it's effects in the house.
I need help. how do I negotiate this? I already discussed separation and her attention to me increased significantly. we don't want to divorce, we love each other. but her anger and resentment about having to carry so much during my depression really helped make this affair happen.
what do I do? please help me.
I have no idea what our relationship boundries are. and I have no desire to fall in love with the people I sleep with, mostly friends with benefits.
I have no idea how to non-consentually be in a poly relationship. My wifes GF (who has borderline personality disorder, to further complicate this BS) and I were friends before this all started. As was GF's partner. that is all shot to hell now.
I have no idea what to do. I read MOre than One at the advice of my kink aware therapist (vital not to have to explain non-monogamy to a therapist and not have them already have a bad attitude.)
unfortunately that book disses non-monogamy.
I want good friends that we fuck ot threesomes we pick up. I want to set a boundry that if she feels that intense falling in love feeling that she will walk away and come talk to me. And ABSOLUTELY no borderlines. that incredible up down anger charming depressed suicidal happy charming anger thing is not for me and I don't want it's effects in the house.
I need help. how do I negotiate this? I already discussed separation and her attention to me increased significantly. we don't want to divorce, we love each other. but her anger and resentment about having to carry so much during my depression really helped make this affair happen.
what do I do? please help me.