ClockworkDragon
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I know, I can't force this, and if it's not going to happen, it's not. I do feel the need to vent, though.
My husband has the devil's own luck when it comes to relationships. Less than a month after breaking up with his last girlfriend, he's already found someone he's smitten with. It's moving really fast with them; I found it a little unnerving. I talked it out with him, though, and we're all on the same page with that. I'm definitely not keeping my feelings inside.
I guess I'm just frustrated that I can't find anyone who wants to get to know me, for me, not just fuck me. Yeah, I like sex. I plan to have sex with whomever I get in a relationship with. But that's not what I want to talk about right out of the gate.
Naturally, 90% of the guys on OKC who are willing to talk to a poly woman are all about the sex. I've been rejected by all of the most attractive men I've talked to, because they're all anti-poly for assorted reasons.
I'm not going to settle, because I deserve better. I'm just frustrated because I desperately need someone to talk to about the things that interest me! That's the main reason we went poly; because our interests have drifted over the years to where we have nothing in common or to talk about anymore. If it weren't for poly, we'd have nothing at ALL to talk about.
So yeargh. I am not jealous of her at all (maybe a little envious, because it's ridiculous how easily he's finding women. LMAO. It's a lot to do with his taste in women; they tend to be more likely to want someone regardless of relationship status.) I just want my snuggles, dammit.
I do have one guy who really does want me, but I'm not that into him; we've played once, just oral, and I like him as a friend. I dunno. There is one guy I've been talking to that I like, but our schedules are nearly opposite, so frequent time together is impossible.
I guess finding decent men who treat women respectfully and are open to open relationships are few and far between. At least on OKC.
My husband has the devil's own luck when it comes to relationships. Less than a month after breaking up with his last girlfriend, he's already found someone he's smitten with. It's moving really fast with them; I found it a little unnerving. I talked it out with him, though, and we're all on the same page with that. I'm definitely not keeping my feelings inside.
I guess I'm just frustrated that I can't find anyone who wants to get to know me, for me, not just fuck me. Yeah, I like sex. I plan to have sex with whomever I get in a relationship with. But that's not what I want to talk about right out of the gate.
Naturally, 90% of the guys on OKC who are willing to talk to a poly woman are all about the sex. I've been rejected by all of the most attractive men I've talked to, because they're all anti-poly for assorted reasons.
I'm not going to settle, because I deserve better. I'm just frustrated because I desperately need someone to talk to about the things that interest me! That's the main reason we went poly; because our interests have drifted over the years to where we have nothing in common or to talk about anymore. If it weren't for poly, we'd have nothing at ALL to talk about.
So yeargh. I am not jealous of her at all (maybe a little envious, because it's ridiculous how easily he's finding women. LMAO. It's a lot to do with his taste in women; they tend to be more likely to want someone regardless of relationship status.) I just want my snuggles, dammit.
I do have one guy who really does want me, but I'm not that into him; we've played once, just oral, and I like him as a friend. I dunno. There is one guy I've been talking to that I like, but our schedules are nearly opposite, so frequent time together is impossible.
I guess finding decent men who treat women respectfully and are open to open relationships are few and far between. At least on OKC.