I started a post on the blog sub forum, but it was suggested I do one here as well, for more critical advice and whatnot.
So, the short version: I'm a mono vanilla cis white male, and I've fallen pretty hard for a married poly woman who seems to have fallen right back. I don't want to a screw things up. On a mental level, I understand a lot of what I'm getting into -- lots of reading material I've been going through. Feels kinda like converting to a new religion... Redefining things, deciding what feels like it fits and what doesn't, etc.
So, my question for the board: what advice would you give to a guy who has never really been part of poly culture before? Even if I stay mono myself, I still need to be able to not mess up ther lives, so...
So, the short version: I'm a mono vanilla cis white male, and I've fallen pretty hard for a married poly woman who seems to have fallen right back. I don't want to a screw things up. On a mental level, I understand a lot of what I'm getting into -- lots of reading material I've been going through. Feels kinda like converting to a new religion... Redefining things, deciding what feels like it fits and what doesn't, etc.
So, my question for the board: what advice would you give to a guy who has never really been part of poly culture before? Even if I stay mono myself, I still need to be able to not mess up ther lives, so...
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