Article: "Bisexual women don’t want to be your sex ‘unicorn’"

Al99

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Actually, a pretty good article, well-written, & quote-worthy. I'd put it on a general "Should Read" list -- better yet, IMNSHO, all "couples looking" should be required to read this before posting so they'll begin with some understanding of what they're walking into.
A unicorn is a creature who’ll bring all the sexy fun without creating any drama, baggage, or need for emotional work
though there’s nothing wrong with a couple experimenting with group sex, or using the internet to seek out someone to play with, many of these couples end up reducing bisexual women to fetish objects, treating us as interchangeable playthings rather than actual human beings.
our expansive capacity for attraction is treated as a flaw right up until it serves someone else’s sexual fantasy—until it can be put to use to spice up a hetero couple’s sex life (or, for the bisexual women included in these couples, until it can be used to get their partners more play).
Because queer women are being sought out to fulfill a specific fantasy, and play a certain role, they’re often approached more as sexual service providers than actual human beings. ... Kira recounted one experience she had with a couple on FetLife... who attributed their picture-free profile to the fact that they were “internet personalities” who needed to protect their reputation. But that need to protect a reputation didn’t stop them from being forthcoming about what they were looking for. Specifically, a “clean” partner. Also, “thick is ok but not BBW. No full African Americans, will consider mix.” For Kira—who’s black but can pass as white—the couple’s approach was “beyond dehumanizing.”
By treating all queer women as unicorns just waiting to happen, couples reduce bisexuality to a party trick, and bisexual women to baubles that exist solely to entertain and excite them when their sex lives have grown tedious.
 
A slightly different definition of unicorn. This article says they're strictly sexual animals, relationships are not wanted. On this forum we usually get unicorn hunters who do want a relationship with their quarry. Some kind of relationship. In addition to the threesomes, of course. But it's still objectification, in most cases.

Good article overall.
 
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