Hello everyone. I've always been fascinated with with the polyamorous lifestyle, though I've not participated.
A few years ago I got out of a frustrating, tumultuous marriage or 20+ years. Just a few months into my freedom I met a wonderfully quirky woman whose intense sex drive matched my own. We quickly settled into a mono relationship.
In many ways she's like a soulmate. The only hitch is that after her own marriage broke up she was, for a few months, in a poly relationship with a couple of friends of hers. Upon learning this I was consumed with envy -- I'm not jealous, but the idea of having 3 and 4-somes has long been a fantasy of mine.
She says she's open to the possibility of us doing that, but is also rather sour on the lifestyle. She blames it for the breakup of her friends' marriage and fears that the experience would drive us apart. It also scares her, because she had an acquaintance who contacted hep C from a careless swap encounter with a couple who turned out to be IV drug users.
To placate me she agreed to go on Adult Friend Finder, but she rejected the couple I had befriended. As we are both in our 50's and slightly overweight we attract the same sort of people -- the man was too unattractive, she said.
I put the idea aside and we've been happy together for 5 years; still the issue of a 3 or 4-some nags at me. To complicate the matter I'm bi-curious and she is staunchly hetero (though during her swinging days she did dabble in a bit of girl-girl contact.)
I was OK until a recent conversation with a nephew on my ex-wife's side, who told me that one of his aunts (also about my age) was now happily involved in a 3-way relationship in California. Once again I'm obsessed with the idea. My girl and I frequently watch amateur swinger porn, which really gets me fired up, but I'd love to take it to the next level. I also resent the fact that she's experienced this and I haven't, and I don't want it to poison our relationship. Except for that, I feel that we're a perfect match.
Vince
A few years ago I got out of a frustrating, tumultuous marriage or 20+ years. Just a few months into my freedom I met a wonderfully quirky woman whose intense sex drive matched my own. We quickly settled into a mono relationship.
In many ways she's like a soulmate. The only hitch is that after her own marriage broke up she was, for a few months, in a poly relationship with a couple of friends of hers. Upon learning this I was consumed with envy -- I'm not jealous, but the idea of having 3 and 4-somes has long been a fantasy of mine.
She says she's open to the possibility of us doing that, but is also rather sour on the lifestyle. She blames it for the breakup of her friends' marriage and fears that the experience would drive us apart. It also scares her, because she had an acquaintance who contacted hep C from a careless swap encounter with a couple who turned out to be IV drug users.
To placate me she agreed to go on Adult Friend Finder, but she rejected the couple I had befriended. As we are both in our 50's and slightly overweight we attract the same sort of people -- the man was too unattractive, she said.
I put the idea aside and we've been happy together for 5 years; still the issue of a 3 or 4-some nags at me. To complicate the matter I'm bi-curious and she is staunchly hetero (though during her swinging days she did dabble in a bit of girl-girl contact.)
I was OK until a recent conversation with a nephew on my ex-wife's side, who told me that one of his aunts (also about my age) was now happily involved in a 3-way relationship in California. Once again I'm obsessed with the idea. My girl and I frequently watch amateur swinger porn, which really gets me fired up, but I'd love to take it to the next level. I also resent the fact that she's experienced this and I haven't, and I don't want it to poison our relationship. Except for that, I feel that we're a perfect match.
Vince