Hey gang,
Delmar here. New to the site but have dabbled in the poly world. My husband and I have been together for 26 years. As s committed gay couple, we didn't open our relationship for the first 15 years. Then we started into some group scenes. Over 5 years ago, we met someone who became our boyfriend.
That's proven to be complicated at times and at others rewarding. The arrangement worked well at first, when our elderly parents were sick and dying, when my husband underwent a prostatectomy and later treatments, it was helpful to share the ups and downs. But the drawbacks and frayed edges began to show, and our boyfriend had a meltdown. So we are back to monogamish behavior, play dates with others but no regular. We're working hard to maintain a friendship with our former beau. There is still some longing on all our parts (the sex and affection were great for us all). Now we're maneuvering a new world.
Full disclosure: I am a writer working on a series of novellas about a couple experimenting with polyamory. I originally came to this site for research. As the storylines are developing I will be branching into bisexual storylines and open polyamory. Coming out of the closet will be a big theme in later books. Of course the professional dovetails with great personal, and I'm really just here to get to know people. I want to honor the pioneers who will eventually help us all come out of the closet...in many circumstances.
Personally, I wonder if you can ever step back to monogamy once you've enjoyed a happy polyamorous relationship.
thanks for reading this far. I tend to be shy (that's why I write) but welcome learning from folks here.
Delmar here. New to the site but have dabbled in the poly world. My husband and I have been together for 26 years. As s committed gay couple, we didn't open our relationship for the first 15 years. Then we started into some group scenes. Over 5 years ago, we met someone who became our boyfriend.
That's proven to be complicated at times and at others rewarding. The arrangement worked well at first, when our elderly parents were sick and dying, when my husband underwent a prostatectomy and later treatments, it was helpful to share the ups and downs. But the drawbacks and frayed edges began to show, and our boyfriend had a meltdown. So we are back to monogamish behavior, play dates with others but no regular. We're working hard to maintain a friendship with our former beau. There is still some longing on all our parts (the sex and affection were great for us all). Now we're maneuvering a new world.
Full disclosure: I am a writer working on a series of novellas about a couple experimenting with polyamory. I originally came to this site for research. As the storylines are developing I will be branching into bisexual storylines and open polyamory. Coming out of the closet will be a big theme in later books. Of course the professional dovetails with great personal, and I'm really just here to get to know people. I want to honor the pioneers who will eventually help us all come out of the closet...in many circumstances.
Personally, I wonder if you can ever step back to monogamy once you've enjoyed a happy polyamorous relationship.
thanks for reading this far. I tend to be shy (that's why I write) but welcome learning from folks here.