I don't really know where to start. My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We have had a great relationship. We had our second son in February and I went through postpartum depression. During that time I didn't touch my husband I didn't show him affection, love, and sex was very scarce. Well during that time he did not feel any affection he seeked it out he worked at a department store working on the side of his real job and he found this girl who showed him affection and they developed a relationship. He said it was more than sex they develop feelings for each other and knew it was time to tell me. This was four months later. I just found out September 23rd and while he told me he wanted to know if we can continue this relationship while he has his relationship with her. So I'm guessing it's kind of like polyamory? He wants me to stay in this relationship after he betrayed me so he can have both of us. He says he always sees it working when he would think about it during the four months period. He sees it logically, that she could help out with cleaning, the bills, with the boys, and such. he said we have gotten better in the past couple of months me and him on a relationship basis and he doesn't want to see me go. It's hard for me though because I told him I would try to work this out because even though I don't believe in cheating I've always told him I would go if he cheated on me but I'm too much in love with him and he says he's in love with me But he also loves her. We have two kids involved in this. He said that he wants to see this relationship work all together and he wants her moved in by January. I told him he's moving kind of fast for me but I'm still not over the fact that he cheated on me and now he wants me to accept this girl as part of our relationship. I'm not really sure where to go from here or how I should go or if I should leave if I should stay I know I love him, and I don't even know if this is the right forum to be asking this on but I don't have anyone else that I can talk to about this. I want to see it work because I want him happy but he keeps saying everything will be equal and I don't believe it should be because I'm the one married to this man she came in not me. So I guess any advice maybe? Anything would be appreciated because like I said this is very shameful to me and I don't want anyone knowing and he he has even mentioned kids if it makes her happy I want to be happy and give her that and that is very hard for me to hear when I thought the past seven years have been wonderful. So I'm not really sure how to think. I blow up at him sometimes and he gets mad at me but I don't know how i should feel... don't know where to go or how to do this. Any advice would be appreciated.
Could this work long term, with how it started out? I'm completely heartbroken-this is something we both agreed is not right, and now he's changed his stance on that..
Let me also say, I don't judge anyone on this lifestyle. I just know as a couole, we agreed it wasn't for us.
Could this work long term, with how it started out? I'm completely heartbroken-this is something we both agreed is not right, and now he's changed his stance on that..
Let me also say, I don't judge anyone on this lifestyle. I just know as a couole, we agreed it wasn't for us.