BarefootJuggler
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Hi all,
I been together with my partner for 15 years and married for 8 of those with two lovely children. Our relationship is very good, but not perfect. Over 15 years our personalities have evolved and we've grown from where we were in those early years. Over the course of several years my wife has been getting more and more unsatisfied with the sexual aspect of our relationship and has discovered that she has a Submissive element to her personality that she no longer wishes to deny. Unfortunately I am not a Dominant partner, not sexually, I like everything to be mutual, and want a different mental attitude from my wife when making love or having sex. I am unable, and do not have the mental attitude that she craves with her Submission.
Our relationship is built on strong communication and we have discussed our issues over and over again, flaring up sometimes and going away at others. But this time she has acted on them, to see if it will stabilise our relationship and bring that additional thing that she is missing into her life. Over the last few months my wife has started an online relationship with a Dominant. She now has a Master. Over the recent months she has had very intimate encounters with him (online) and they feel that they are falling in love with each other.
Don't get me wrong, our sexual relationship is still alive, she still loves me and does not want to lose me and vica-versa. But sex between us is "vanilla" for her and, from her point of view, seems mainly to please me, which I am not that happy about. I obviously want to satisfy my wife and am keen to pleasure her, but her desire is for something more sadistic then I am willing to be.
We're both quite open-minded and never regarded monogamy particularly ideal, and for now, where she has two men in her life, she seems much more content. It is still early days so we will see how it evolves.
I joined this forum in order to discuss polyamory, what it is to people, and to meet open-minded people who I may be able to share this adventure with. Obviously my wife is practising polyamory, I my-self however am not actively living a polyamory life, but am available to the opportunity.
Another thing I am keen to read and discuss about is polyamory and parenting.
I'm sorry if this is a long thread, but I've never joined a forum before, and struggle to explain my situation. Everytime I think about it, it comes out in a different way!
I been together with my partner for 15 years and married for 8 of those with two lovely children. Our relationship is very good, but not perfect. Over 15 years our personalities have evolved and we've grown from where we were in those early years. Over the course of several years my wife has been getting more and more unsatisfied with the sexual aspect of our relationship and has discovered that she has a Submissive element to her personality that she no longer wishes to deny. Unfortunately I am not a Dominant partner, not sexually, I like everything to be mutual, and want a different mental attitude from my wife when making love or having sex. I am unable, and do not have the mental attitude that she craves with her Submission.
Our relationship is built on strong communication and we have discussed our issues over and over again, flaring up sometimes and going away at others. But this time she has acted on them, to see if it will stabilise our relationship and bring that additional thing that she is missing into her life. Over the last few months my wife has started an online relationship with a Dominant. She now has a Master. Over the recent months she has had very intimate encounters with him (online) and they feel that they are falling in love with each other.
Don't get me wrong, our sexual relationship is still alive, she still loves me and does not want to lose me and vica-versa. But sex between us is "vanilla" for her and, from her point of view, seems mainly to please me, which I am not that happy about. I obviously want to satisfy my wife and am keen to pleasure her, but her desire is for something more sadistic then I am willing to be.
We're both quite open-minded and never regarded monogamy particularly ideal, and for now, where she has two men in her life, she seems much more content. It is still early days so we will see how it evolves.
I joined this forum in order to discuss polyamory, what it is to people, and to meet open-minded people who I may be able to share this adventure with. Obviously my wife is practising polyamory, I my-self however am not actively living a polyamory life, but am available to the opportunity.
Another thing I am keen to read and discuss about is polyamory and parenting.
I'm sorry if this is a long thread, but I've never joined a forum before, and struggle to explain my situation. Everytime I think about it, it comes out in a different way!
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