So, Cindie, you try to not be attached to people. But you're introverted, you're child free, you live alone... I wouldn't be happy that way. Intrinsically I am a social person, and I have a high libido. If I didn't have a partner (or two) to bounce ideas and myself off of, I'd have a lower quality of life.
That said, I love my own company, and when my primary partner is away, I find it very peaceful and fulfilling to just bang around the house doing my own thing, temporarily. For a few days to a couple weeks, I am OK, and then I want her to come home. Am I attached to her? Yes, we are bonded. Hormonally and intellectually, we are committed, and we enrich each others' lives.
I am a pagan. It suits me better than Buddhism (although I have spoken to Buddha and been answered). I feel very grounded in nature, the earth is my Mother... I can also have my head in the stars. I enjoy big concepts and humanity's struggles to feel at home in the cosmos, in the Divine.
The one thing I am unattached to is outcomes. Or I try to be. I have learned to have low expectations and to take life as it comes. Just to be open minded. Change is inevitable, nothing ever stays the same. People can be not what you thought they were, and let you down.
I live in the moment, I don't worry much about the past, or the future. I can let go of pain and people if I have to. I think I can even seem cold about how I can sluff off people who no longer want to be in my life, and move onto people who do want to be in my life.
So I do not live in bliss. I can't be a monk in a monastery, sitting on my ass meditating all day. But I feel pretty happy with my life, in all its imperfection. Yes, I try to be "zen," and stay centered, and even say OOOMMM... in my head when face with a difficult situation. But I like being "attached" to people. I like being bonded, and taking care of people I love, and being cared for. Is that bad?
I feel a bit disgusted by typical wandering divines, who may leave a houseful of kids behind to go seek their bliss. Is that really worthy, or just selfish?
That said, I love my own company, and when my primary partner is away, I find it very peaceful and fulfilling to just bang around the house doing my own thing, temporarily. For a few days to a couple weeks, I am OK, and then I want her to come home. Am I attached to her? Yes, we are bonded. Hormonally and intellectually, we are committed, and we enrich each others' lives.
I am a pagan. It suits me better than Buddhism (although I have spoken to Buddha and been answered). I feel very grounded in nature, the earth is my Mother... I can also have my head in the stars. I enjoy big concepts and humanity's struggles to feel at home in the cosmos, in the Divine.
The one thing I am unattached to is outcomes. Or I try to be. I have learned to have low expectations and to take life as it comes. Just to be open minded. Change is inevitable, nothing ever stays the same. People can be not what you thought they were, and let you down.
I live in the moment, I don't worry much about the past, or the future. I can let go of pain and people if I have to. I think I can even seem cold about how I can sluff off people who no longer want to be in my life, and move onto people who do want to be in my life.
So I do not live in bliss. I can't be a monk in a monastery, sitting on my ass meditating all day. But I feel pretty happy with my life, in all its imperfection. Yes, I try to be "zen," and stay centered, and even say OOOMMM... in my head when face with a difficult situation. But I like being "attached" to people. I like being bonded, and taking care of people I love, and being cared for. Is that bad?
I feel a bit disgusted by typical wandering divines, who may leave a houseful of kids behind to go seek their bliss. Is that really worthy, or just selfish?