I just wanted to update those of you who helped talk me through the situations I was facing. The conversation leading up to our friend and I ceasing communication again were... unpleasant, painful. Unlike our original break-up, there was no, "Yeah, this is for the best." Rather, there was a lot of venting on her front, and I gave her that without argument. We haven't spoken since.
My wife has continued to withdraw into herself, and I'm letting her for now. I need introspection badly, and if she isn't withdrawn, she continues the process of intermingling our emotions and thoughts to an unhealthy level. My psychiatrist believes that the panic attacks I'd been suffering might not be panic attacks. I'm seeing a neurologist tomorrow for seizures. I'm not sure which is worse. I don't know anything about these sorts of things. Either way, I've also got my first therapist appointment on the 11th, so we'll see how things progress there.
At this point, looking at the whole of things that's happened, I find myself struggling to handle loving my wife. Not struggling to love her, but... the demands she put on me during our triad, the things she said and told me, it hurt our friend and I a lot. To this day, she equates my missing her with when I felt bad some of our fish died. Living with her is a constant balance of realizing what is real, and what is imagined, and then reacting accordingly. Hearing that an abundance of stress could be the cause of my physical reactions, and that essentially, living with my wife could be causing me to have seizures... That's a lot to process.
Again, I'm not trying to dredge up a dead topic, but wanted to let people know what's happening now. I've been off the forums a while now, with all this going on, but I'm still thankful for all the open minds and ears here.