Thought I would update. So things settled down and the major issues we were having mostly revolved around Sam's mother's behavior and the fact that the chic Sam had previously been seeing was making a huge pest of herself (refusing to go on if I was attending) at the theater until she left in February 2017. She came back a few months later but she was told that she was no longer welcome to perform. She still does stuff like send us both private messages under fake accounts and during the haunted house season she tries to be places she knows I'll be.
I found out later that she'd told everyone I caused a miscarriage (the day that I walked into my house and caught her on my couch). and that I'm a monster because of it. She'd told him and multiple friends that she was pregnant with Sam's baby but refused to let Sam go to a doctor with her.
She's driven past our house for months threatening to come confront me whenever she saw my car. She said she was going to sell her soul to the devil so my kids and I will all die in a car wreck. Why? Because I was with a guy she wanted for herself. I really don't understand why Sam just didn't tell me himself or tell her to fuck off because he wasn't giving her anything she wanted, she just wanted to get me out of the picture and thought he'd be with her. I could go on and on about all the shitty things she's done and said.
I understand why Sam did the things he did but if he had just honored the boundaries he'd agreed to then 2.5 years after breaking things off with her I still wouldn't be having her in my life. Her childhood friend is hanging out with out good friend so because of this I have to hear things like how she recently faked another pregnancy with her boyfriend (who beat her up
). She's super pissed that her friend is hanging out with us, she even went in her friend's phone and turned off the conversation with Sam so Sam couldn't message her.
So I dealt with Sam's mom, she still smoked in the house but at least she wasn't doing it when my kids was there so I just sucked it up because the alternative would be that I left and just didn't come back which I hated the few month's I did that. She was supposed to move out when she came back from Florida but she ended up staying on the couch. Whatever I just ignored it and accepted that if she chose to be in her living room then I'm not going to feel bad and tiptoe around her. She could sleep in her room if she wanted to so I wasn't going to put myself out to be considerate
For the most part we got along fine until July 2017 when I heard that her son, his wife, and their two kids under age 4 were coming to stay. I said no, the house rule is her kids can't stay here then she messages me all passive aggressive like “I'm sorry that you feel like my family shouldn't stay with me for the holiday weekend “. Umm they live in town, it would be different if they were out of town guests then I could see making an allowance but the truth is they were evicted and so this as her attempt to move them into our house. Sam, the roommate, and I all said no but still they came. They didn't leave after the weekend and at the end of July when we went on a 10 day trip to Seattle we made it clear that they needed to be out when we got back. I should mention that neither of them worked and were making no effort to leave so I feel under no obligation to let them just stay there indefinitely
Well the wife and kids left after we arrived back and because she could not stay there she broke up with her husband. He stayed on until the beginning of October but since he was gone all night and slept all day I didn't make a big deal about it. He did eventually leave because they got back together but 10 days later he was back with his whole family again! The first night his mom claimed that they'd been there so late that they just stayed the night but the next day they were moving their shit in! And Sam said no they can't stay there and she said “I pay rent here so they can stay in my room. I don't complain about your company” wtf?! I've lived with Sam for 3 years save for those few months I refused to go back and she's calling me company? And she only pays 1/7 of rent because she was paying for a room to store her shit in, she wasn't even supposed to be at the house. I wasn't going to let her move her son's family in the house like she did when he lived in his apartment. She already talked Sam into loaning his brother 5k to get a car out of pawn under the promise that he'd get it back in a couple months. He still hadn't gotten the money back and she was still harassing him to loan more. She got mad at me and told me “he was a nice guy before he met you “ and I told her “no, he didn't have a backbone before he met me”. To this day he hasn't talked to his brother nor received any payment for the loan
So I was super pissed that she called me company so I left and told Sam I was NOT coming back until she was gone. He told me that he told her that night they had to go immediately so if they stayed longer I don't know for how LONG. He also told her that she needed to move. So every week I asked for updates and every week he would say that she didn't know if she wanted to stay in town and get a job/place or if she wanted to move to Florida. Week by week went by and still no decision made. He did tell me she was at least trying to sell stuff at least. Finally she decided to leave at 11 weeks and I got to come back to a huge mess. She left her room a disgusting mess. Sam was just so glad she was gone that he didn't complain about it.