FieryPhoenix
New member
Almost four months ago I began dating a new person. This is a very different sort of experience for me. This person is very introverted and we have chosen (for myriad personal reasons) to maintain our own domiciles.
Our dynamic is structured on the basis of solo poly.
It has been a huge learning experience for me.
I find that it is much more peaceful this way. In the past I have had more interconnectedness in my romances. Whereas this time, we are emotionally close. We have extraordinary sex. We see each other several times a week, we enjoy daily communication, but usually it's written (text). We do not share finances or a home. We don't spend a great deal of time socializing with each others friends. We maintain a large open space for personal time as individuals. At first I had doubts to how well this would work. But as time goes on, I find myself feeling like this way of having a relationship is better for me.
I find myself enjoying my time without him and enjoying my time with him. Where in the past I found myself lost when my lover(s) was unavailable.
I find feel more confident, more sure of myself, who I am, what I want, where I am going with my life.
I find I have less insecurities in all arenas of my life, I believe to a large degree because I don't identify myself in regards to my romance. I identify myself in regards to the MANY things I do with my life of which my romance is only one.
Our dynamic is structured on the basis of solo poly.
It has been a huge learning experience for me.
I find that it is much more peaceful this way. In the past I have had more interconnectedness in my romances. Whereas this time, we are emotionally close. We have extraordinary sex. We see each other several times a week, we enjoy daily communication, but usually it's written (text). We do not share finances or a home. We don't spend a great deal of time socializing with each others friends. We maintain a large open space for personal time as individuals. At first I had doubts to how well this would work. But as time goes on, I find myself feeling like this way of having a relationship is better for me.
I find myself enjoying my time without him and enjoying my time with him. Where in the past I found myself lost when my lover(s) was unavailable.
I find feel more confident, more sure of myself, who I am, what I want, where I am going with my life.
I find I have less insecurities in all arenas of my life, I believe to a large degree because I don't identify myself in regards to my romance. I identify myself in regards to the MANY things I do with my life of which my romance is only one.