anamikanon
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Thanks for commenting on my thread Infinite. Last night we had a calm, discussion and she said "I know you are not monogamous and having friends makes you happy" this was said with a kinda sad resignation.
Ignore my previous post. It was written before I read this.
So I guess we may be moving closer, but it still doesn't feel good to me. I think there will be lots more discussion, setting boundaries, rules etc. So the process continues.
You seem to be decided unilaterally that the process continues even if it doesn't feel good or you are saying that she is open to further discussion beyond the resignation which sounds fifty kinds of wrong?
I need to find a way to give her what she needs. She wants us to go back to when we first started out, the NRE, my focus on her. I can try, but sustain that for the next 20 years? I guess some extraordinary people can pull it off.
I have found that when I am able to tap into some NRE, things get way brighter and more fun. I think it is easier with NRE than without to sustain a relationship, but that is just me. I think it is very positive that she is also looking at brightening what you have together. It is a huge plus from your worry earlier that you could lose her. 20 years is a scary way of putting it. Sounds like a phenomenal duty, when I doubt your NRE felt like that. How about getting some fun in now and living the moment?