Hey there! The name is Miss B! I'm a 27 year old female in a long term mono relationship. He is 32 yearsold and we met online! He's my best friend but we have had some rough patches in our relationship.
As of now, my boyfriend and I are in a very confusing state. We were engaged but just ended it. I've moved out as well. However, we have still talked and he admitted that his frustration and moody attitudes were based that he wanted an open relationship. He's defined that he wants other sexual partners and not anything long term. Since we do love each other so much and see each other as life partners, I am wondering how we can establish this and make it work.
I also have to admit that my boyfriend and I have been through some very hard times. I have had a suicide attempt which he had took care of me after it. We were broken up for a year and then decided to try again. We had a separation for a month. All of these situations were based on his "hermit mode" and based on lack of open communication. He feels very afraid to talk and he also grew up with a family that NEVER talked about anything. I know it is hard for him but he has progressed so much that I find it unfair of me to even blow him off because of his communication skills. He has been there for me through counseling and all of my own personal demons.
We have tried swinging clubs but we never felt comfortable. I like the idea of me meeting people on my own terms and so does he. we tried meeting online for threesomes but no one was ever "real". But he addressed to me that being completely monogamous is not for him.
I feel afraid that he would leave me for someone better. He has assured me that it doesn't change his feelings for me. But where can we start even though I've
Moved out? Or should I just not even bother? We really do love each other so much.
Thanks!
As of now, my boyfriend and I are in a very confusing state. We were engaged but just ended it. I've moved out as well. However, we have still talked and he admitted that his frustration and moody attitudes were based that he wanted an open relationship. He's defined that he wants other sexual partners and not anything long term. Since we do love each other so much and see each other as life partners, I am wondering how we can establish this and make it work.
I also have to admit that my boyfriend and I have been through some very hard times. I have had a suicide attempt which he had took care of me after it. We were broken up for a year and then decided to try again. We had a separation for a month. All of these situations were based on his "hermit mode" and based on lack of open communication. He feels very afraid to talk and he also grew up with a family that NEVER talked about anything. I know it is hard for him but he has progressed so much that I find it unfair of me to even blow him off because of his communication skills. He has been there for me through counseling and all of my own personal demons.
We have tried swinging clubs but we never felt comfortable. I like the idea of me meeting people on my own terms and so does he. we tried meeting online for threesomes but no one was ever "real". But he addressed to me that being completely monogamous is not for him.
I feel afraid that he would leave me for someone better. He has assured me that it doesn't change his feelings for me. But where can we start even though I've
Moved out? Or should I just not even bother? We really do love each other so much.
Thanks!