VelvetArt
New member
Hi!
My name is Rayne. I'm a 38 year old mother of two, in a very loving and devoted marriage to my very best friend of 15 years.
13 years ago, we opened our marriage to swinging. Then it kind of morphed to just being open to random hookups so long as my husband knew about it.
A little over 2 years ago, my husband went over the road as a truck driver. We decided to leave the marriage open to random hookups. Then, I met my friend's husband. They were in the process of opening their marriage, and didn't quite know what they were yet.
I've been seeing him for 2 years now, he's my best friend in my husband's absence. I don't love my husband any less, yet I care VERY deeply for my boyfriend. My husband knows all this and has been very accepting and even encouraging. My boyfriend's wife was my friend first, and I'm glad she's accepting and supportive as well.
HOWEVER... I am out of my comfort zone. I was previously never supposed to get attached. I don't know if this is even a true poly situation, as my boyfriend's wife and I are just friends, and my husband and my boyfriend have literally NOTHING in common but me.
We all toss the word "polyamory" like we know what all it entails, but I'm not sure we do.
I'm looking for open minded, non-judgmental friends who can help me figure out what's happened in my life, and what steps to take next... or not take.
My marriage is most important to me, but I also want to preserve what I have with my boyfriend.
I've been on a few other sites where I've been kinda ripped into and told I'm a swinger with an over attachment issue, and that doesn't feel right to me either.
HELP?
My name is Rayne. I'm a 38 year old mother of two, in a very loving and devoted marriage to my very best friend of 15 years.
13 years ago, we opened our marriage to swinging. Then it kind of morphed to just being open to random hookups so long as my husband knew about it.
A little over 2 years ago, my husband went over the road as a truck driver. We decided to leave the marriage open to random hookups. Then, I met my friend's husband. They were in the process of opening their marriage, and didn't quite know what they were yet.
I've been seeing him for 2 years now, he's my best friend in my husband's absence. I don't love my husband any less, yet I care VERY deeply for my boyfriend. My husband knows all this and has been very accepting and even encouraging. My boyfriend's wife was my friend first, and I'm glad she's accepting and supportive as well.
HOWEVER... I am out of my comfort zone. I was previously never supposed to get attached. I don't know if this is even a true poly situation, as my boyfriend's wife and I are just friends, and my husband and my boyfriend have literally NOTHING in common but me.
We all toss the word "polyamory" like we know what all it entails, but I'm not sure we do.
I'm looking for open minded, non-judgmental friends who can help me figure out what's happened in my life, and what steps to take next... or not take.
My marriage is most important to me, but I also want to preserve what I have with my boyfriend.
I've been on a few other sites where I've been kinda ripped into and told I'm a swinger with an over attachment issue, and that doesn't feel right to me either.
HELP?