Hello Polyfriends,
I haven't been here in a while but I wanted to say hi. I am bumping along in life and for a while poly was working. I had a V but inexplicably my secondary decided certain things and as usual I have no say in how things go because it is a long distance relationship. When he visits he no longer stays with us. My primary relationship is the same, rock. My DH is ok with things but the V is broken for sure. He was not amused at the disruption of vacation plans and felt it was manipulative and calculated. The end result was a beautiful vacation planned, half with sec and then the second half all of us... just became husband, and a non romantic friend and me. part was scuba and sec was supposed to be dive buddy, non romantic friend became dive buddy)
I keep in contact with secondary daily by texts but the inexplicable behaviors have broken my heart where I keep him at friendly arm's length. He seems to think we are still in love, but my bruised heart will no longer allow me to utter the words "I love you" to him.
I just haven't been lucky in poly. I don't know if it is still right for me but I hope someday it will be.
I started reading the threads again.
I haven't been here in a while but I wanted to say hi. I am bumping along in life and for a while poly was working. I had a V but inexplicably my secondary decided certain things and as usual I have no say in how things go because it is a long distance relationship. When he visits he no longer stays with us. My primary relationship is the same, rock. My DH is ok with things but the V is broken for sure. He was not amused at the disruption of vacation plans and felt it was manipulative and calculated. The end result was a beautiful vacation planned, half with sec and then the second half all of us... just became husband, and a non romantic friend and me. part was scuba and sec was supposed to be dive buddy, non romantic friend became dive buddy)
I keep in contact with secondary daily by texts but the inexplicable behaviors have broken my heart where I keep him at friendly arm's length. He seems to think we are still in love, but my bruised heart will no longer allow me to utter the words "I love you" to him.
I just haven't been lucky in poly. I don't know if it is still right for me but I hope someday it will be.
I started reading the threads again.