Hello everyone!
I have been in polyamorous relationships in the past, but I always figured that it was because my "main" relationship wasn't fulfilling enough.
I find myself in a situation where I have the best boyfriend in the world. He treats me better than I've ever been treated in my life, and we are planning on getting married next year.
However, we have been in a long distance relationship for over 3 years. I have been faithful to him the entire time... up until about a month ago. I ended up meeting a man who totally understands me, emotionally. I have never connected with someone so quickly! One thing lead to another and we fell in love.
Now I'm in love with both of them. My boyfriend found out about the other relationship, and surprisingly, he's willing to work things out and still allow me time to see my other guy. My other guy already knew about my current relationship and has expressed that he's into polyamory and wants to be a "second"
Things seem great! But I know that my current boyfriend is suffering. This is hard for him, but he's really trying to make it work. I know deep down that it hurts him to share me with someone else.
I have been doing everything in my power to assure him that my love for him has not changed.. and in fact has grown because I see that he cares about me enough to try to make this work. But I know that deep down, he's wondering what he could do differently to be 100% of what I need.
He and I are actually moving in together in the next couple of weeks... I'm not sure how I will navigate my relationships with these two incredible men without hurting one or both of them. I hope that being on this forum will give me some insight.
I have been in polyamorous relationships in the past, but I always figured that it was because my "main" relationship wasn't fulfilling enough.
I find myself in a situation where I have the best boyfriend in the world. He treats me better than I've ever been treated in my life, and we are planning on getting married next year.
However, we have been in a long distance relationship for over 3 years. I have been faithful to him the entire time... up until about a month ago. I ended up meeting a man who totally understands me, emotionally. I have never connected with someone so quickly! One thing lead to another and we fell in love.
Now I'm in love with both of them. My boyfriend found out about the other relationship, and surprisingly, he's willing to work things out and still allow me time to see my other guy. My other guy already knew about my current relationship and has expressed that he's into polyamory and wants to be a "second"
Things seem great! But I know that my current boyfriend is suffering. This is hard for him, but he's really trying to make it work. I know deep down that it hurts him to share me with someone else.
I have been doing everything in my power to assure him that my love for him has not changed.. and in fact has grown because I see that he cares about me enough to try to make this work. But I know that deep down, he's wondering what he could do differently to be 100% of what I need.
He and I are actually moving in together in the next couple of weeks... I'm not sure how I will navigate my relationships with these two incredible men without hurting one or both of them. I hope that being on this forum will give me some insight.