Hi all. Gonna dive right in. I have been involved with a poly household for almost 10 years. For many years it has been my boyfriend, his other girlfriend (and my best friend) and me. As far as we knew he was sterile and has been fairly vocal about not wanting children so we both got iuds for birth control.
He and i live together and my friend lives separate and comes home as often as she can dur to work. We took in a friend to help her get on her feet and to be a fwb for him. We all talked about it and were copacetic with the situation.
About two months ago we found out that she wasn’t on the birth control she had said she was on. Had a long talk about it and she was supposed to get on it. Well she seems to be pregnant. We are getting a blood trst to confirm.
The advice i need is how to handle this. On the one hand a child would be a miracle abd for that i am over the moon. On the other i feel like she put off the doctor banking on him shooting blanks and i am furious with the entrapment angle. He is nervous and trying not to get excited(until bloodwork comes back) and i do not want to “rock the boat” so not sure how or if i should say much of anything. It’s not like starting an argument is going to change anything other thab breed animosity. Also bears stating that they have talked and unless there is a medical necessity abortion is not an option.
I feel conflicted abd confused and was hoping some of y’all might have some wisdom to help with those feelings and well like minded people can be a grat support and perhaps with that i can br the support for them brcause if there is a child, regardless of how i feel, it is an innocent life tgat deserves the best i can give. Thanks in advance.
Also pleas excuse typos. I am using mobile and my keyboard is acting up.
He and i live together and my friend lives separate and comes home as often as she can dur to work. We took in a friend to help her get on her feet and to be a fwb for him. We all talked about it and were copacetic with the situation.
About two months ago we found out that she wasn’t on the birth control she had said she was on. Had a long talk about it and she was supposed to get on it. Well she seems to be pregnant. We are getting a blood trst to confirm.
The advice i need is how to handle this. On the one hand a child would be a miracle abd for that i am over the moon. On the other i feel like she put off the doctor banking on him shooting blanks and i am furious with the entrapment angle. He is nervous and trying not to get excited(until bloodwork comes back) and i do not want to “rock the boat” so not sure how or if i should say much of anything. It’s not like starting an argument is going to change anything other thab breed animosity. Also bears stating that they have talked and unless there is a medical necessity abortion is not an option.
I feel conflicted abd confused and was hoping some of y’all might have some wisdom to help with those feelings and well like minded people can be a grat support and perhaps with that i can br the support for them brcause if there is a child, regardless of how i feel, it is an innocent life tgat deserves the best i can give. Thanks in advance.
Also pleas excuse typos. I am using mobile and my keyboard is acting up.