I'm not sure how one makes nuanced relationship choices by looking at profiles.
My problem was that they were looking at photos and not reading the damn profile description or something. Or simply patronizing enough or arrogant enough to think that they were so irresistable that I'd want them even if they were the very opposite of what I was looking for.
I think what you are seeing is a lot of frustration on the part of men.
This is true. And particularly in India, which is a fairly sex repressed country overall. While there isn't so much obvious seggregation, mingling of genders for any more than superficial interaction remains rare outside the more upper class, privileged urban folks.
I have also spoken with young men who generally stand and pass comments and whistle at girls passing by. Their reasoning was brutally pragmatic. Any reaction is better than no attention at all. They don't see girls being interested unless they appear to be affluent, mostly because few girls will appreciated being approached by men they don't know.
It is a sad fact that doesn't look like it will change in a hurry. And it is a self fulfilling prophesy - because men can be so desperate that they are inconsiderate, women are warier.
When you are the umpteenth woman who rejects them they lash out. They don't stop to think about what they are doing wrong. Women don't seem to be as aggressive. Maybe because they can just sit there and pick and choose?
I suppose so. There must be hundreds of men for every woman interested in dating in our area. Most men I interacted with get maybe a match a month. On the other hand, anyone I showed an interest in was an instant match. On Tinder, I literally ended up with a few dozen people matched before I realized the javascript wasn't updating and I had matched with lots of people (thinking no one was interested) and was only seeing them when I refreshed the page.
On OKC, I have about a thousand likes - I can't see who they are, but chances are, if I like any profile shown, it will match. I have a dozen chats going that I check maybe once a day or less, and they are still interested (I'd have lost interest).
One fix I did find that helped was change the profile picture to something really random. NOT my real face, which the site tends to pull automatically from FB. Since doing that, I added about 200 likes in the time it earlier took me to get 1000. Depressing as that is, I call it improvement.