MsEmotional
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Well this is quite the turn of events....
So I'm doing a lot better. I'm a little nervous because it feels like the feelings of "better" are mostly related to replacement. As in, I'm not thinking about Laptop because I've replaced that relationship with other opportunities.
I was having fun on OkCupid, and seemed to be finding some interesting people to contact. I wasn't giving it a lot of thought -- mostly just sending random messages to people with the first thought that popped into my head. I told one guy that he was freakishly beautiful and had an extremely symmetrical face and he seemed to enjoy that and we chatted for a bit, etc. Another guy I told him we might be soulmates because he mentioned Alison Bechdel in his profile... just fun, silly chatting. I chatted a bit more with the guy from Sunday night, but then I got super distracted because....
Last night I was swiping around and came across a guy who is about 8 years older and a 98% match for me. I know match percentage isn't everything, but Ponytail, Laptop and Glasses are all 97+% matches with me and they are the only people I have had any inclination to hang out with more than once.
Anyway, so I'm looking at this guy's profile and it's really speaking to me. Like, the way he writes and the stuff he talks about...silly-smart, not snobby-smart...genuine. And the way he describes his induction into polyamory is awesome. Looking at his questions, we are nearly-perfectly aligned and in a lot of cases where he commented on his answer it was pretty much exactly what I was thinking too.
So then I'm scrolling through his pictures....A few of them are clearly from his younger days and -- BAM -- I get the eery sense that I know this guy!
So I send him a message asking him if we worked together 10 years ago. He wasn't sure but when I told him my real name (it isn't linked to my OKC profile) he remembered. We only worked together for a year and didn't stay in touch after that but he was one of the people at that job that I considered a workplace friend. He and his wife got married the same year that Glasses and I did -- in fact, our workplace threw us a joint wedding shower.
Well, lo and behold, he and that same wife have been polyamorous for the last 7 years and now I stumble across his profile on OKC. It was late at night and so after confirming that we remembered each other I told him I'd love to catch up sometime and then headed to bed. When I woke up I saw that he'd invited me to go to a concert this weekend and given me his number. I explained that I will be out of town but that I'd love to get together.....blah, blah, blah: We're getting together for lunch tomorrow and I'm so excited!
So I'm doing a lot better. I'm a little nervous because it feels like the feelings of "better" are mostly related to replacement. As in, I'm not thinking about Laptop because I've replaced that relationship with other opportunities.
I was having fun on OkCupid, and seemed to be finding some interesting people to contact. I wasn't giving it a lot of thought -- mostly just sending random messages to people with the first thought that popped into my head. I told one guy that he was freakishly beautiful and had an extremely symmetrical face and he seemed to enjoy that and we chatted for a bit, etc. Another guy I told him we might be soulmates because he mentioned Alison Bechdel in his profile... just fun, silly chatting. I chatted a bit more with the guy from Sunday night, but then I got super distracted because....
Last night I was swiping around and came across a guy who is about 8 years older and a 98% match for me. I know match percentage isn't everything, but Ponytail, Laptop and Glasses are all 97+% matches with me and they are the only people I have had any inclination to hang out with more than once.
Anyway, so I'm looking at this guy's profile and it's really speaking to me. Like, the way he writes and the stuff he talks about...silly-smart, not snobby-smart...genuine. And the way he describes his induction into polyamory is awesome. Looking at his questions, we are nearly-perfectly aligned and in a lot of cases where he commented on his answer it was pretty much exactly what I was thinking too.
So then I'm scrolling through his pictures....A few of them are clearly from his younger days and -- BAM -- I get the eery sense that I know this guy!
So I send him a message asking him if we worked together 10 years ago. He wasn't sure but when I told him my real name (it isn't linked to my OKC profile) he remembered. We only worked together for a year and didn't stay in touch after that but he was one of the people at that job that I considered a workplace friend. He and his wife got married the same year that Glasses and I did -- in fact, our workplace threw us a joint wedding shower.
Well, lo and behold, he and that same wife have been polyamorous for the last 7 years and now I stumble across his profile on OKC. It was late at night and so after confirming that we remembered each other I told him I'd love to catch up sometime and then headed to bed. When I woke up I saw that he'd invited me to go to a concert this weekend and given me his number. I explained that I will be out of town but that I'd love to get together.....blah, blah, blah: We're getting together for lunch tomorrow and I'm so excited!