prettylittleriddles
New member
Hi forum,
after lurking and reading for several months and finding this forum incredibly helpful to deal with all the new exciting things happening to my relationship(s), I finally decided to sign up and say hi!
I'm a 30-ish woman living in a European capital I'm a bit paranoid about being identified, so I prefer to speak in riddles, as per my username
I'm in an open primary relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years, let's call him Captain the openness started out as a rather theoretical thing because we both had issues with the arbitrary boundaries imposed by classical monogamy - seeing long-term couples break up on principle over one-time sexual missteps or attraction to someone else never made sense to me personally.
So we had the occasional one-night-stand or fooling around with another person at a party, but we were always pretty insecure and used to say that we would never be one of those polyamorous couples with partners on the side... well...
Last year, I developed a fling with another guy, let's call him Flash, and it turned into a regular thing - not quite romantic, but a bit attached, somewhere above friends with benefits. There were a lot of insecurities we all needed to deal with. Flash had a thing with another woman we both knew - let's call her Sun - and ultimately, it developed into a triad between the three of us, which felt extremely right. I started to read this forum very heavily around that time trying to make sense of what the hell was going on in my love life
All of this was pretty one-sided so far. Now my partner, Captain, has met someone he would like to start seeing a bit more regularly on the side - and yikes, it's also not easy being on the other side of this, even if you have previously benefited from the same leeway...
So I feel like I may turn to this forum for guidance and support a bit more often in the near future
Thanks for reading if you've made it this far!
after lurking and reading for several months and finding this forum incredibly helpful to deal with all the new exciting things happening to my relationship(s), I finally decided to sign up and say hi!
I'm a 30-ish woman living in a European capital I'm a bit paranoid about being identified, so I prefer to speak in riddles, as per my username
I'm in an open primary relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years, let's call him Captain the openness started out as a rather theoretical thing because we both had issues with the arbitrary boundaries imposed by classical monogamy - seeing long-term couples break up on principle over one-time sexual missteps or attraction to someone else never made sense to me personally.
So we had the occasional one-night-stand or fooling around with another person at a party, but we were always pretty insecure and used to say that we would never be one of those polyamorous couples with partners on the side... well...
Last year, I developed a fling with another guy, let's call him Flash, and it turned into a regular thing - not quite romantic, but a bit attached, somewhere above friends with benefits. There were a lot of insecurities we all needed to deal with. Flash had a thing with another woman we both knew - let's call her Sun - and ultimately, it developed into a triad between the three of us, which felt extremely right. I started to read this forum very heavily around that time trying to make sense of what the hell was going on in my love life
All of this was pretty one-sided so far. Now my partner, Captain, has met someone he would like to start seeing a bit more regularly on the side - and yikes, it's also not easy being on the other side of this, even if you have previously benefited from the same leeway...
So I feel like I may turn to this forum for guidance and support a bit more often in the near future
Thanks for reading if you've made it this far!