hislittlekitten
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Some of you are familiar with my situation. My metamour is still struggling in her relationship with our shared partner and has requested to meet with me.
Initially, the gist of my response was this: we are in a V, my relationship is going well with him, if you have issues then we will bring it up together with him, and otherwise I'd like to know why you want to meet. This was not received well; I received a short, rude, passive-aggressive answer, and I had to bug my partner about it until she responded a little more like an adult.
So now we're meeting (again); while our first meeting supposedly went well, I learned a few months after that it had not and that she was still viewing me as competition. My partner promises that it's different this time, but it's been pulling teeth getting this woman to say it herself.
I view passive-aggressive behavior as attempts to control a situation. It clicked for me when my partner mentioned that he deals with her "ok whatever" attitude all the time. I almost took the bait, but thankfully didn't step over the line and made it clear that I am going to do what's in the best interest of me and my partner.
Any thoughts? Any ideas? Questions that might help you understand what's going on? I really don't know what I'm asking. I'm kind of venting. I've gotten very tired and rundown from all of this, especially since my relationship with my partner has been fantastic.
Initially, the gist of my response was this: we are in a V, my relationship is going well with him, if you have issues then we will bring it up together with him, and otherwise I'd like to know why you want to meet. This was not received well; I received a short, rude, passive-aggressive answer, and I had to bug my partner about it until she responded a little more like an adult.
So now we're meeting (again); while our first meeting supposedly went well, I learned a few months after that it had not and that she was still viewing me as competition. My partner promises that it's different this time, but it's been pulling teeth getting this woman to say it herself.
I view passive-aggressive behavior as attempts to control a situation. It clicked for me when my partner mentioned that he deals with her "ok whatever" attitude all the time. I almost took the bait, but thankfully didn't step over the line and made it clear that I am going to do what's in the best interest of me and my partner.
Any thoughts? Any ideas? Questions that might help you understand what's going on? I really don't know what I'm asking. I'm kind of venting. I've gotten very tired and rundown from all of this, especially since my relationship with my partner has been fantastic.