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To me, this sounded more like a guy who got caught being nonmonogamous, maybe even polyfidelitous -- it's grossly inaccurate to call an 11-year relationship "an affair." (Still no comments from his wife, FWIW.)
Army demotes 'swinging general' after investigation into affairs, lifestyle
It does piss me off a little to find that USA Today (in this & previous articles) would so readily resort to yellow-journalism phrases, even going so far as "sordid sex scandal."
Unlikely that the military was unaware of this stuff.
Really, though, Haight is being punished for making too many big promises to a jilted woman:
Army demotes 'swinging general' after investigation into affairs, lifestyle
It does piss me off a little to find that USA Today (in this & previous articles) would so readily resort to yellow-journalism phrases, even going so far as "sordid sex scandal."
Unlikely that the military was unaware of this stuff.
At one point, I was being recruited to take a rank doing clearance checks specifically because it was known that my wife (who had just moved up from Secret level ) & I were public about being poly, Wiccan, & bi -- as in, we were pretty much blackmail-proof. (Apparently, extramarital sex is still a no-no in the UCMJ... despite the "geographical bachelors" I've met living together openly in base housing.)His superiors promoted him three times since his affair with Armstrong began. Screeners of officials for security clearances ... scrutinize financial and family stability to guard against vulnerability to bribes or blackmail.
...&, well, after ELEVEN YEARS of all that stuff. "I just now started to have doubts about him!!"Armstrong ... told USA Today in interviews that the relationship began with a flirty email and ended after assignations with multiple partners at swingers’ clubs, hotels and her home.
Most media covering Haight's problems have gone out of their way to not give details beyond the "ain't it awful" squawk-words; this is the only one I've found in the first 40-or-so hits.Armstrong furnished a copy of a handwritten letter from Haight who encouraged her while she fought breast cancer.
Really, though, Haight is being punished for making too many big promises to a jilted woman:
It's maybe ironic that it wasn't even Haight's idea to break up with Armstrong -- for all we know, maybe he actually WAS making plans to change wives, but she totally unloaded on him, including all the emails & texts she'd saved.Armstrong ... says Haight had promised a future together. “I gave him the best years of my life”
You've probably guessed already that Haight had originally targeted Armstrong, & used his rank & power & influence to take advantage of her.In 2015, anonymous tips about Haight’s extramarital affairs were brought to the Pentagon’s inspector general. Ultimately, the Army’s inspector general took the case. The Army ordered Haight to sever contact with Armstrong. Investigators interviewed her and others and substantiated allegations that he had "had an affair and lived a 'swinger lifestyle.'"
So, she stalked him, & finally won him over. As for his big promises, Armstrong has proven herself a credible witness, right?The inspector general's report dates the affair to Feb. 12, 2005, when Armstrong was working as a contractor in Iraq. Smitten after seeing Haight at a base, she emailed every David Haight in the Army directory, saying that he had a “terrific smile.” Eventually, she found the right Haight
She also bears a tattoo with his name on it.
And just like Jack Ryan before him, there was Haight, getting his jollies setting poor innocent Jennifer up with random strangers... wait a second...She claimed to have a nursing degree from the University of California at San Diego. A check there revealed she did not, prompting Armstrong to claim a degree from California State University San Marcos. She does not. Records also show that she has twice declared bankruptcy, including last year in Virginia.
How creepy is it that, in this day & age, & with all the crap going on in the world, being a heterosexual, couplist swinger is presented as something immoral & disgusting?Armstrong found partners for the couple, and email on his military account shows that he asked after them and their availability.
Haight asked Armstrong whether she wanted to involve men: “Do you want another guy?” She declined.
Soon, a friend suggested that they should go to a club where members engage in sex with strangers. They went to clubs in Baltimore and near the Army War College in Carlisle Barracks, Pa., Armstrong said. They visited others when he traveled, including Tampa and Atlanta where they were almost recognized by another soldier when Haight was the Army’s chief of infantry, she said. Armstrong has also recognized other swingers at the Pentagon.
The inspector general's report ... indicates Armstrong and Haight "visited swingers' clubs while he was stationed at Fort Benning, Georgia." Haight was assigned to Benning from July 2012 to October 2013.
They also had “parties” at Armstrong’s house. ... She described the sex as “non-emotional intimacy.” There were no drugs or alcohol involved, she said.
She and Haight knew their relationship and “alternative lifestyle” put him at risk of being blackmailed. But they felt they were discreet enough — his face did not appear on their online profile for Swing Life Style’s website — that he would not be recognized.
In one December 2011 email attributed to Haight, he asked Armstrong whether Tabu Social Club in Maryland was open the night of “22/23 Dec?” Tabu is a members-only club in Maryland whose website touts it as “Where Sexy Adults Come and Play.”