Hey all, new to the site, new to polyamory and looking for some friendly faces, shared stories, conversations, experiences, perhaps someone to vent with on occasion...anything that can provide insight into the poly world that I find myself entering into.
A quick bit about my sit.
I am a gay male, 42, two years separated from my ex-husband of 12 years (monogamous, for the most part) who has reconnected with an old friend/flame...C...who was the person who introduced me to the concept of polyamory, 20 years ago in the first place. He has a partner of five years - R - who I have met and is welcoming me into their relationship gladly, which I feel so happy about, because R is just as exciting and loving as C.
I have heard the term "trinogamy" to explain our situation, where all three are involved in a physical and emotional relationship, but it is polyamory nonetheless.
We have not explored the physical aspects yet, and are focusing on developing a deeper connection between R and yours truly, because C and I have a history that predates his and his partner's, and we want to establish a deeper physical and emotional relationship first before C becomes more directly emotionally involved.
The goal, however, it to be in a stable, committed, physically stimulating and intellectually gratifying relationship.
Any Do's and don'ts advice for someone coming into an existing and stable relationship? I am excited, nervous, and floored by the possibilities...I guess I am feeling slightly overwhelmed by it, but at the same time...I want it so much!
Edit: Sorry, I am new...I should have posted this in a different thread. Whoops.
A quick bit about my sit.
I am a gay male, 42, two years separated from my ex-husband of 12 years (monogamous, for the most part) who has reconnected with an old friend/flame...C...who was the person who introduced me to the concept of polyamory, 20 years ago in the first place. He has a partner of five years - R - who I have met and is welcoming me into their relationship gladly, which I feel so happy about, because R is just as exciting and loving as C.
I have heard the term "trinogamy" to explain our situation, where all three are involved in a physical and emotional relationship, but it is polyamory nonetheless.
We have not explored the physical aspects yet, and are focusing on developing a deeper connection between R and yours truly, because C and I have a history that predates his and his partner's, and we want to establish a deeper physical and emotional relationship first before C becomes more directly emotionally involved.
The goal, however, it to be in a stable, committed, physically stimulating and intellectually gratifying relationship.
Any Do's and don'ts advice for someone coming into an existing and stable relationship? I am excited, nervous, and floored by the possibilities...I guess I am feeling slightly overwhelmed by it, but at the same time...I want it so much!
Edit: Sorry, I am new...I should have posted this in a different thread. Whoops.
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