Lotsofaijou
New member
So after reading some posts and some suggested articles, polyamory truly appeals to me. From what I understand, honesty and communication are what makes any relationship a good, happy, and healthy one. Recently, I've been having trouble accepting what kind of relationships I would like. I love love, and loving people, friendship and otherwise. I've always believed in being honest with those you love and communicating any issues or concerns you have. Polyamory calls to me, but my family and friends keep telling me that open relationships and polyamory aren't for me because at the end of the day, you only love one more than another. My family tells me that if I want someone else, that's saying that I'm not happy in my current relationship and I want to leave it, but that's not the case. I stupidly left my best friend (who I still love to this day) to pursue a crush because I was told that polyamory wouldn't work for me. And I'm unhappy with that decision. My crush and I are making a beautiful relationship, but I want my romantic relationship with my best friend too! I never wanted it to end. I just wanted to also introduce someone else into the picture. I wanted (and still do) two boyfriends.
I'm done listening to how I can't do this, and am ready to hear how I can start healthy poly-relationships.
So my question is where do I begin? How do I start introducing the idea of bringing a former boyfriend into my new relationship without sounding like this current relationship has problems? Cuz it doesn't. I just love both of these men and want them in my life.
I'm done listening to how I can't do this, and am ready to hear how I can start healthy poly-relationships.
So my question is where do I begin? How do I start introducing the idea of bringing a former boyfriend into my new relationship without sounding like this current relationship has problems? Cuz it doesn't. I just love both of these men and want them in my life.