Yes, I am on Fet! I mostly use it to find events in the area. I keep hoping to find someone on OKC who has actually filled out their Fet profiles but 95% of the time it's, "I have a profile there but it really isn't filled out/I haven't looked at it in ages." I keep hoping I'll find someone who has an amazing profile on both platforms! I would love some groups to help me navigate things!
I have done some google searches on Daddy Doms and littles, and the more I read, the more I don't think that is truly the dynamic I am looking for. I don't actually "regress" or need a blanket fort to fuck in. I do get wet AF when being told that daddy wants me to do something, and he wants it done right now, but I think maybe I just need a regular Dom with some rougher talk. This is new to me and I am learning, so I reserve the right to change my preferences! I am not sure how that will impact things with DaddyMagic, but we had a discussion yesterday and he isn't exclusively looking for a little or anything, and he is cool with whatever I am interested in trying.
It is a double-edged sword with all this male attention. It's a little overwhelming, and it's also annoying. I don't wanna be all waaaaaa but I hit triple digit messages in the first 24 hours and there's just no way to focus on file management with that and the rest of my life. Thankfully, a good number of those are quick deletes, because they are one word openers and I am clear in my profile that I don't pay attention to those. It's also fun and exciting, but I would be much happier if the messages were coming from guys close by, but everyone is in DC or an hour north or south to me. Things have tapered down to a more manageable level now, as far as the volume of messages, so that is a relief.
I had two dates yesterday - one was from 11 am to 5:30 pm with DaddyMagic, and the other went from 6:30 pm to 9:30 pm with Greg.
Things were ok with DaddyMagic again. We had a quick lunch and then spent most of our time at a local game store. We played Boss Monster (I won), Forbidden Desert two times (cooperatively lost the first, won the second) and then Evolution (lost this and I am in awe at the complexity of this game!) we didn't have any real time to discuss a ton but we had a friendly banter and filled each other in on things that had happened in our past, things we do for fun, etc. It was a good third date, and I found myself liking him a lot - DaddyMagic is someone I would hang out with and game with on a regular basis, no hesitations.
That said, I am not 100% sure we are going to being a long term thing. He really is wanting a baby mama yesterday. He owns his car, house, has a good job, etc. and he is very clear that is his primary focus. I am not oblivious to the fact that the pickings in our area are slim for women who would be gung ho with all of that and want their baby daddy to be in a poly relationship as well. I told him I would be willing to bow out if one came along, and I could tell he wasn't exactly comfortable with the idea of having to cast a person aside like that, but he also sorta seemed relieved? So I dunno. I am willing to continue on with the idea that my relationship with him will be secondary, if he does manage to find someone else. He was pretty adamant that he doesn't do exclusive and that he wouldn't be willing to change our relationship if it was progressing until he was for certain sure that he had found his life partner.
So we shall see. He has someone else that he sees on an on-again-off-again basis that sounds like she is quite honestly, treating him like he's disposable, but I didn't press for details. He said she will pop up and tell him to put a baby in her - which he refuses because he's not an idiot - and then she will disappear for days? weeks? and ignore his texts. She refuses to even friend him on Facebook, I guess? That's a flag for me - I wouldn't allow someone to be like that in my life and the fact that he does is questionable.
We went back to his place after the game store, and I met his 6 cats. His house was ok. It was spacious and not filthy. Lol Still very obvious that a single dude with no household brain lived there. Zero art, personality. Very bare. When he finds his full time ladyfriend, she will have plenty of ways to make that house a home! Anyway, we talked for over an hour and then we fooled around a little bit.
Overall, I will continue to see him if he wants to keep going with things. I like him on a friend level and I feel safe exploring some kink with him. I don't have NRE but I don't feel I need it for a FWB. The other guys I have seen with that label, I didn't have NRE either, so I feel like this could be a good fit. I am excited that I may have found someone for frequency and for kink all in one.
So, I was late leaving and had to rush home to change for my dinner date with Greg. He was running a little late too, so it worked out. He has lost some weight since I last saw him, but he's still a larger dude. His face just lit up when he saw me, and he continued to have this huge smile whenever he looked at me. It was very flattering. I liked the way I felt when he smiled.
Guys, Greg is just the sweetest ever. I remembered that about him when I was dating him previously, and that trait has not gone away. He reminds me soooooo much of DarkKnight! He's like, a blacker version. Lol We have a lot in common but so much that is different - if anything, I would consider him more cultured than me - but we mesh so well together personality-wise that I believe he and I would have a lot of fun times together.
He is leaving today to go see the solar eclipse in the path of totality, so I am totally jelly there! He told me his work is totally crazy this coming week but that he definitely wants to plan another date for the week after that. This works for me, because if DaddyMagic is going to get his testing done, I will probably see him Tuesday, and then my sister will be here with her family the rest of the week, so I won't be going out at all.
The main feeling I get when with Greg is happiness. His enthusiasm for me makes me smile, and his excitement when he is talking about his interests makes me smile. And I smile when he is making a point about a topic, and I smile when he explains things I already know. He just makes me happy, and his entire demeanor makes me want to make him happy. That's like, the simplest way to describe it.
He lives an hour away though. We talked about that. He was bummed I will be unable to host, but he was enthusiastic about me coming out his way frequently. He invited me to a 4-day Thanksgiving gathering that his friends have every year, and to the Air & Space museum on New Year's Day. Apparently there's a dance club in town I know nothing about, where his friend DJs, so he is going to figure out a time for us to go there together, even though neither of us dance.
Dating him is just so damned easy. I had forgotten that. I feel like I can be myself and he's just so into me, I don't have to worry about saying or doing the wrong thing.
Anyway, I am looking forward to chatting with him more this week and setting up something for the next week.
I had two dates planned for today - a lunch thing and an "after 3 pm" thing. I canceled the lunch date because a friend snagged 4 extra eclipse glasses for me and I have to drive to Berkeley Springs to meet her at noon. I am not missing having those for a stranger. Lol The later date I haven't checked in with the guy to firm things up and I don't know that I will. He is 28 and seems like a fuckboi. I have a lot to do at home and I think I wanna have a full day with DarkKnight, so I am going to call things off with that dude and make a date with my husband instead.