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playingwithfire

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Where to start in finding a poly relationship? I've been speaking to a guy who also wants a poly relationship on a dating site where you ask questions and it gives you percentages of how much you've got in common.

But where do you start looking to add someone else to the relationship? The most common places to look for a poly relationship is in America and India
 
Looking for a "poly relationship" (??) sounds like you're looking for a construct within which to fit other people. Instead, just go out and try to meet people, see who you hit it off with and talk with them about non-exclusivity. Practicing polyamory does not mean that everyone you would be involved with has to be involved with each other as well. You can have several lovers who don't even know each other. The configuration should never come before the people you relate with!
 
Real life seems to work well...
 
Hi playingwithfire,

I think it would make a difference where you hail from, as America and India are a long ways away from each other. That said, your main resource would be dating sites such as:

Another way to approach it is to get involved with a local poly group and make some friends there. You can use the following sites/pages to help you look:

We also have a Dating & Friendships subforum and you can use that to place ads and look for people in your area.

Hope that helps.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Where to start in finding a poly relationship? I've been speaking to a guy who also wants a poly relationship on a dating site where you ask questions and it gives you percentages of how much you've got in common.

But where do you start looking to add someone else to the relationship? The most common places to look for a poly relationship is in America and India
starting a poly relationship is like starting any other, only when you are out flirting and dating there are two of you instead of just a single person. It DOES require something that is important above ALL else... COMMUNICATION. We can't say that enough its SO important to everyone involved.

Go out and have fun, like you normally do, find a poly function in your area (we actually learned what poly was through a group at CONvergence Science fiction convention in Minnesota).

It has been our experience both as singles dating and as a poly couple originally that the harder you look the more desperate you come off and it will push people away. Be yourselves and flirt....
 
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