Tise
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Hello all,
I have been an avid reader on here for a while but haven't found anything that is like my situation enough to feel like I could have my concerns fully met.
My husband and I are both poly, we were poly before we met but became Mono during our courtship and subsequent marriage. We've been married about a year and although we tried to open our relationship once, it went very badly. There was moving too quickly, sex before both of us were ready, deciet, and tears.
It's been a long time since this occurred and my husband is ready to open again. I'm not sure that we are. While we have a close friend that I have had sex with twice, with consent during our marriage, my husband has become further and further away from me sexually.
I think this signifies a problem that needs to be addressed before we open back up.
My husband doesn't see things this way. He states that while he loves me, he isn't sexually attracted to me anymore and that he needs to be able to seek sexual satisfaction outside of our marriage. And that I should seek another person to take care of my sexual needs.
This is very difficult for me. I think that if we have a healthy sex life together, that I would be fine with opening back up. He thinks opening back up will fix the problems in our sex life because there won't be so much pressure to perform.
Help! I see his point but who is right?
I have been an avid reader on here for a while but haven't found anything that is like my situation enough to feel like I could have my concerns fully met.
My husband and I are both poly, we were poly before we met but became Mono during our courtship and subsequent marriage. We've been married about a year and although we tried to open our relationship once, it went very badly. There was moving too quickly, sex before both of us were ready, deciet, and tears.
It's been a long time since this occurred and my husband is ready to open again. I'm not sure that we are. While we have a close friend that I have had sex with twice, with consent during our marriage, my husband has become further and further away from me sexually.
I think this signifies a problem that needs to be addressed before we open back up.
My husband doesn't see things this way. He states that while he loves me, he isn't sexually attracted to me anymore and that he needs to be able to seek sexual satisfaction outside of our marriage. And that I should seek another person to take care of my sexual needs.
This is very difficult for me. I think that if we have a healthy sex life together, that I would be fine with opening back up. He thinks opening back up will fix the problems in our sex life because there won't be so much pressure to perform.
Help! I see his point but who is right?
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