newtothis2017
New member
Hello, my relationship with my girlfriend started off monogamous but as we moved back home (we met abroad) and started a long distance relationship, where we transitioned into an open relationship. She realized that she identified as poly. For me, I have tried kissing two other women and it seemed wrong, it looks like I am naturally a monogamous person. I am fine with her having physical relationships with other people but recently things have changed. She had a friends with benefit relationship with this woman and it turned into something intimate that I was not comfortable with. The other woman revealed that she was in love with my girlfriend, to which my gf replied that she loved her too. To me, she told me that she was not in love with her. From the beginning, I told her I was not comfortable with her falling in love with someone else.
Here are the things I am worried about
1) She identifies as polyamorous and I do not want to invalidate her identity
2) She claims that you cannot control feelings and that once you get close to someone, you do not know how those feelings will develop
3) We are going to move in together in two weeks and the relationship with this other woman will end due to distance but I am afraid of this happening again.
Hopefully someone on this site is more experienced with polyamory. What do you think of this situation and how have people made poly/mono relationships work?
Here are the things I am worried about
1) She identifies as polyamorous and I do not want to invalidate her identity
2) She claims that you cannot control feelings and that once you get close to someone, you do not know how those feelings will develop
3) We are going to move in together in two weeks and the relationship with this other woman will end due to distance but I am afraid of this happening again.
Hopefully someone on this site is more experienced with polyamory. What do you think of this situation and how have people made poly/mono relationships work?