I now live with R and H who are married. We've been in this little relationship dynamic for two years now, but only moved in together for a few months. I moved to them. R is my boyfriend. When R, H and I go anywhere together, H doesn't talk. H becomes mute, H looks at her phone, H won't order anything to eat. When I go out with H alone, she's fine, friendly, eats is happy.
I don't really know how to approach the subject with H, and I am someone who avoids conflict. Honestly I just don't like to rock the boat, but I wish she would just stay home if she was going to act this way. I know it's not me in general, because she often follows me around the house like a kid when I'm doing something.
I know perhaps she feels like the third wheel when with R and me, but she also does this when other adults are around. H hurt him, H betrayed him, and R is never going to get over it. H knows how R feels but I think hangs onto the hope that it will go back to the way it used to be someday. For R, H is mostly around because R and H have a kid together. For H, H doesn't want to work and plays video games all day. So this is really the dynamic of their relationship.
I don't really know how to approach the subject with H, and I am someone who avoids conflict. Honestly I just don't like to rock the boat, but I wish she would just stay home if she was going to act this way. I know it's not me in general, because she often follows me around the house like a kid when I'm doing something.
I know perhaps she feels like the third wheel when with R and me, but she also does this when other adults are around. H hurt him, H betrayed him, and R is never going to get over it. H knows how R feels but I think hangs onto the hope that it will go back to the way it used to be someday. For R, H is mostly around because R and H have a kid together. For H, H doesn't want to work and plays video games all day. So this is really the dynamic of their relationship.