majormerrick
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I'm facing a decision regarding my future and possibly getting involved with my exBF that I am very close to. I’m leaning in the direction of joining his family. I’ve been in love with him for 15 years, and I suspect that my GF#1 is in love with his first wife and that their relationship is growing past the friendship level. I'm trying to work out a situation where everybody wins and is happy. The family situation we would be looking at would be me becoming his third wife, and my GFs being involved with his wives but probably not with him.
My ex and his family are part of a small sect of Christianity that has a unique set of beliefs, and they consider me to essentially be a non-believing heathen. I believe in God, just not the same way they do. In order to have a relationship with him and become part of his household (if that is what I want) I would have to officially convert to following their spiritual path. The word "cult" could possibly be used for this particular religious group, although it doesn't really bother me. My ex is aware of my beliefs as we discuss them often, and I think he understands that my conversion would mostly be formal. It would be necessary, though, since he holds a leadership position in his group and has to set a good example.
My problem is, I just can't be convinced that their beliefs are the truth. They have some interesting regulations about how women are supposed to dress, groom, and behave. They support their statements with verses from the text, but I don't see that it adds up. They don’t believe anything that I find really offensive, it is just a different perspective. Changing a few facets of my life wouldn’t bother me, however I would have to profess faith and become involved in an aspect religious service.
So...is it possible to simply say that I convert to make the relationship work, or do I somehow have to convince myself of their point of view?
My ex and his family are part of a small sect of Christianity that has a unique set of beliefs, and they consider me to essentially be a non-believing heathen. I believe in God, just not the same way they do. In order to have a relationship with him and become part of his household (if that is what I want) I would have to officially convert to following their spiritual path. The word "cult" could possibly be used for this particular religious group, although it doesn't really bother me. My ex is aware of my beliefs as we discuss them often, and I think he understands that my conversion would mostly be formal. It would be necessary, though, since he holds a leadership position in his group and has to set a good example.
My problem is, I just can't be convinced that their beliefs are the truth. They have some interesting regulations about how women are supposed to dress, groom, and behave. They support their statements with verses from the text, but I don't see that it adds up. They don’t believe anything that I find really offensive, it is just a different perspective. Changing a few facets of my life wouldn’t bother me, however I would have to profess faith and become involved in an aspect religious service.
So...is it possible to simply say that I convert to make the relationship work, or do I somehow have to convince myself of their point of view?