sterling119
New member
Danielsen, you need to relax, take a deep breath and know that she is not going anywhere. If she was she already would have. She shares everything with you....sometimes even things she knows you are uncomfortable with but it is to keep an open line of communication with you not having secrets kept from you and having you involved in all facets of her life. My wife and I have had a poly relationship and I do understand some of what your feeling but the benefits are worth it. Once the nre is over and things move into a more normal relationship you will find that everyone gets what they need. She will have 2 man that adore her for who she is, she gets the loving husband you have always been for her, the great sex you 2 have always had and a new sexual excitement from her boyfriend. That excitement believe it or not will benefit you in your daily life as well as in the bedroom. What you put into this you will get back 10 fold if you relax a bit. She may be one of those women that really needs a lot of love and sex to make her feel whole and desired. 12 years together has given you the upper hand in the poly relationship you in now as you 2 have a long history of life together. This new man makes her feel desired and loved in a way she forgot could be. Scheduling is going to be a challenge but can be worked out to where you have things you do when they are together and him doing the same when it's "your time". Don' know if this is making you feel better but I can tell you our poly relationship worked very well while it lasted. She would still be with him had he not left the relationship. We all benefited in our own ways.