SEASONEDpolyAgain
Well-known member
I meant in all threads, not just OPs thread, we [as in all users; including you and me, but in the end an EVERYONE we] should get clarification on something we could be biased about. Is X situation something that could have been written poorly? More as a general rule for just interactions on, especially emotional, threads. We all misunderstand things, misread things; sometimes taking that pause and making sure we've got it right can make all of our advice better and in the end, more tactful and meaningful.
I did ask for clarification. All I did was explain to the OP that the guy wants a perfectly valid version of poly and she went off the deep end because she doesn't want to hear that.
In this case, it is more important that she acknowledges that than it is for her to feel sympathy for any heartbreak. It's more important for polyamory to be properly understood than it is for her to have her moment making him out to be a dog.