But it took years to arrange for Essure or tubal ligation!?! Why? Were the doctors concerned about sterilizing young women who might regret it? This is disturbing to hear.
Many, many doctors said they would only do it to a woman who was:
- married
- had kids (some doctors said 2, some doctors said 4)
- older (some doctors said 30, some said 35, some even said 40. At this point you might as well wait for menopause!)
Doctors are extremely reluctant, they keep emphasizing that it's permanent, and "what if you change your mind in a few years?". It's really annoying because having a child is permanent as well, and changing your mind in a few years has worse consequences.
Just be strong, knowledgeable about your options and confident in your choice and you'll raise your chances. But there are women who have had to lie and pretend they had children to get it done because everyone else told them they wouldn't do it. And there are women who had children who were also refused because they were too young or didn't have enough children (a mother of one was told once "what if your kid died?").
It apparently really depends on the doctor, so I would go on a forum that's about that (maybe a childfree forum, or a contraception forum, or something like that) and see if you can get an address from a doctor who will do it. As I recall people were exchanging these addresses like crazy, both addresses in Europe and North America. Some people ended up going to the next state or the next country because that was the closest that they knew would do it.
Not trying to scare you here, just be prepared, you might find someone who won't be against doing it.
Oh, I almost forgot, I seem to remember that a tubal is covered in more places than essure is.