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Old 09-20-2015, 09:06 PM
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https://www.slantnews.com/story/2015...getting-off-to

One way is to buy from ethical producers. I'm familiar with the CrashPad series listed as one of the options in the article.
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Old 09-20-2015, 10:43 PM
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How about sites like xtube (amateur site) xvideos, xhamsters and such?
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Old 09-20-2015, 11:04 PM
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I couldn't tell ya, sorry. (Don't have much expertise about these things)
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Old 10-03-2015, 10:38 AM
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Anyone read Franklin Veaux's post on Quora/Slate a few days ago?

Does Pornography Harm Sexual Libido?

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There are legitimate critiques of people's relationships to porn. Porn is not education. Watching porn to try to figure out how to run your sex life is like watching James Bond movies to try to figure out how to be a spy—it's stupid. We know that when it comes to James Bond movies, but people screw that up about porn because we don't talk about sex in healthy ways. But that's not porn's fault. If people are looking to porn for their sex ed, something has come off the rails ... and that's not porn's fault.
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Old 10-04-2015, 01:28 AM
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I had not read that post. Interesting quote.
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Old 10-07-2015, 06:29 AM
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The issue of ethically-produced porn seems to come up in the media pretty regularly, if a quick Google search means anything. Since reading Casey Quinlan's article https://bitchmedia.org/post/why-you-...st-porn-report I've become leery of the free sites. Apparently making a living as a porn star is not as easy as it used to be, thanks to good old digital piracy, which is pretty much their business model.
It does seem that you get what you pay for, including the feeling of being an ethical consumer. The cheaper it is--just as with T-shirts--the more likely it is to have come from a sweatshop.
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Old 10-15-2015, 01:19 AM
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I think the only my only concern with porn is that it turns sex into a sport or theatrical event rather that intimacy. While sex is a sport for some, in hopes of deriving self pleasure, I'm not sure self pleasure advances the cause of sharing and loving others.
It may be old fashion but isn't polyamory about connecting and sharing with others over self gradification?
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Old 12-13-2015, 07:40 PM
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To some it is evil. Different people has different sets of standards.

Once upon a time it was thrill. It was the era of V.C.R. Back then it was called Blue Film. I was young. It was very difficult to rent one. Finding a place to watch was even more difficult.

Today I take it as an entertainment.

In another note, sex is like swimming. You can't learn how to swim by watching someone else. You have to get into water and try it yourself.
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Old 12-31-2015, 11:55 PM
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I have viewed porn on the internet on occasion. The free stuff -- I'd never pay for it when so much is there for free.

Far too little of what I've seen shows any kind of story, but just gets "right to it" -- the sex, that is -- and the folks don't even talk to one another or have any lead up or anything. So I do have the impression that porn (at least the stuff online) contributes to a sense of sex as having nothing to do with human connections aside from purely sexual ones. I'd like to see more story in it. But of course I'm not at all statistically normal.
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I think the only my only concern with porn is that it turns sex into a sport or theatrical event rather that intimacy. While sex is a sport for some, in hopes of deriving self pleasure, I'm not sure self pleasure advances the cause of sharing and loving others.
It may be old fashion but isn't polyamory about connecting and sharing with others over self gradification?
I disagree. I think self love is normal and healthy. We women are often encouraged to learn what turns us on sexually, so that we can tell partners how to please us correctly and fully. If a bit of porn helps with that, I am all for it. I watch more porn now that I ever did, although I did cut my teeth on my dad's Playboy magazines back when I was a preteen.

I like to search for female porn stars that have a similar sexual appetite and style as my own. I hunt for women who are obviously greatly enjoying themselves and not faking it.
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