WhatHappened
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I would love to be open with my wife about this, but I just can't. She has her own issues about me. She's also kind of a hypocrite about this, because she still has an ongoing relationship platonic friendship with one of her exes, yet she gets upset at the possibility of me having any contact, online or otherwise, with my exes. She has talked to exes behind my back without consulting me, to the same extent to what I am trying here.
I'm ok with it. I've told her as much. It doesn't bother me, her ex is actually pretty cool; we get along.
I'm not looking to have an affair; my intentions are honorable.
If you would love to be open, then do so. Yes, you can be open if you so desire. The fact that she has done X doesn't mean you need to or are entitled to.
I'm assuming that her ongoing platonic friendship is out in the open. That would make a big difference in how things are viewed.
My wife is incredibly jealous and protective of me. She tends to view every other woman (that she deems to be attractive) as a threat. I don't like this, I tell her so, but its not going away anytime soon.
If there's secrecy around these women, that may be the root cause of feeling there's a threat.
If she's truly that irrationally jealous, maybe you should be spending your time in marriage counseling and working on this problem, rather than seeking out ex girlfriends behind her back, because secrecy only leads to further problems and concerns on her part that she really does have something to fear.
As to the ex girlfriend herself, she didn't make much effort for you even when she was your 'girlfriend.' You told her to call, and she never did. You have sent her a PM. You have e-mailed her. She hasn't answered.
I think that's her answer loud and clear. If she's been on FB at all (presumably that's where you've PM'd her?), she has seen that you sent a PM, and has likely chosen not to open it.
The hard truth seems to be, as someone already said, she just wasn't that into you. This happens. It's a fact of life.