Piroska
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Interestingly, I have the opposite view of online dating versus in person. (I use OKcupid and fetlife, not sure if the other sites are the same way) But being able to read about a person, their views on lots of things (particularly on OKcupid, where there are thousands of potential questions people can answer) seems to be a better chance to find someone who you would actually connect with. For example, I can read the profiles of a number of people, and if they say they'd never be in an open or poly relationship, that kink is not their thing, or that they think erotica is gross, and they prefer reality tv to books, for example, I know that I shouldn't bother contacting them, regardless of how physically attractive they may be. Whereas if someone is very interested in similar things to me, has similar relational styles, and we can start a conversation about sci fi books we both love, for example, I have much less concern over physical appearance; but if we had met in person first, it would be harder to suss out differences in basic compatibility without spending a lot of time; assuming at least one of us was physically attracted enough (and confident enough) to approach the other to start with.