I agree with all that was said.
In my 2 simple posts i merely stated the fact that my wife and I are looking for a female, basically pointing out that we are looking to create a triad with me (male) as the hinge.
My second comment was written a while afterwards, after a few months of me dating on my own and realizing that almost all the women i met (yes, dating separately) preferred to keep it on a "play date" rather than actually trying to establish a relationship outside the bedroom.
Did i meet the wrong women? you bet, otherwise i will not have to post these comments
Did i go by the hints and suggestions made on this great forum? you bet again, before my wife and i started this journey we talked alot about the who/how/when etc, and i give lots of credit to this site for guidance.
Poly relationship is new to my wife and I so it is a learning experience and my posts merely reflect my current experiences.
If there are any suggestions by ladies here about helping us go the right way, we will be happy to listen, we want this to succeed and would love to know how to make it happen.
Yes, you are correct.
It's a V with me as a hinge.
Yes, we are honest from the get go, stating the fact that we are married and she is straight (so no triad in the sexual meaning) and she is also mono while i'm poly.
Yes, we have been trying different sites, from basic dating sites to swingers sites as well as sites geared towards poly relationships and the obvious meeting people in real life, not online, by attending and participating in poly and swingers groups
And it is not that i/we have no luck with the ladies, i get lots of interest, it's that we are unable to find the "right one" yet.
My posts was a statement saying that it seem in my area (SE Broward County) the women we meet seem more interested in just a few flings or a one night stand, than they are in a LTR, that is all
We have not given up, we are full speed forward, just posted my local observations
GreenAcres, yes, you are correct on the V vs Triad.
No, we do not have any 'restricting' rules except an overnight stay, i do not stay over night at a lady's house, but she is welcome to stay over night at our house.
It did not seem to be a problem until now so i don't see it as the reason.
I do have to agree on your point of "child bearing age women", this sounds more plausible to me.
Maybe i should start looking for older women?.. lol
Thanks for all your tips and suggestions...
I definitely understand your point and i can see how the no overnight rule can cause a hesitation on some level to some women.
We usually do not discuss it unless the relationship goes further than just a couple of dates or if it is brought up by the meta.
I always stress that those rules are flexible on the long run because no rule can be made to control and manipulate feelings, so the rules are basically always up for negotiation when all parties agree.
In our case, the no overnight rule is due to wife need to be near me when going to sleep.
Even when she travels on business and i can not join her, she have a very hard time falling and staying asleep, so i will not do anything that will put her in an uncomfortable situation, but i do understand your point on this and this is something that obviously we will have to work on
Hi, I'm also single and looking for a sexy poly couple, just sick to death of one night stands and looking for something more long term. I find guys to be really too aggressive on their own and would rather she and I get to know each other first. I live in Cocoa Beach, just off A1A and the causeway near the massive Ron Jon's
Amy