In learning about polyamory I've been desperate to find sources that address both polyamory and asexuality, and was surprised by the lack of overlap between the two. They seem so similar: both tend to upend everything people assume about relationships.
While most people who identify as polyamorous probably think of polyamory as a lovestyle that significantly (typically) involves sexual expression, I'd say that most poly folk also understand that many people love people intensely with whom they are not sexually involved/interested. We also tend to have a fair bit of awareness of human differences.
Anyhow, I like your point about asexuality and polyamory "upending" conventional thoughts and beliefs about relationships. So true. And romantic / sexual (together or apart) relations between person of the same sex still do that for many!, too. (e.g., considerations of gender roles.)
Most of us poly folk realize that polyamory isn't a sex-style but a love-style (but not a "lifestyle"). Romantic relationships that are asexual are obviously loving partnerships, no less loving than those that include sexual expression. Love is juicy and wonderful and amazing with or without sex. I think most poly folk understand this as well. Still, I bet most poly folk are like me, in that we don't really understand, fully, the life of an asexual person, as from the inside. The sex drive is powerful in most of our lives, especially when we are young (as you are). So you're bringing richness to our little community, here. You're offering us an opportunity to learn about romantic same-sex loving between people in which at least one of the partners identifies as asexual. Great! This will help us understand ourselves better, as well as you and those like yourself. Already, I am imagining myself involved in a passionate love affair that doesn't include sexual attraction. Hmmm.
I wonder, do you and your boyfriend cuddle naked? Kiss? Snuggle, spoon?
No, I'm not requiring video footage!