Hello all,
My wife and I just started an open relationship a few months ago and I need some help and advice.
Prologue - Im 28 and my wife is 22. My wife and I have been married for two years. I am prior military and she is still serving. We both live in military base housing. She was the one who brought up the idea of an open relationship. After some time thinking about it and discussing it with my wife we started our open relationship. My wife seems to have a line of guys clawing at the door trying to get with her and it's quite understandable, she is beautiful, funny, and has a great body. She has had three partners since we started and I have been getting put down by women and it is very annoying.
My wife has no problem telling people that she is married and in an open relationship. Thinking like a young, single guy I probably wouldn't care that she is married either However when I tell girls that I am married and in an open relationship I get "oh...uhhh" and then it gets awkward from there or they stop talking to me. I am aware that I am going to get a few strikes before I get a hit but it is so easy for my wife.
My wife tells me to not tell them that I am married, that I live in military base housing because I am retired, which couldn't be further from the truth, or tell them I am living with a roommate on base housing, but I consider that lying. She tells me that I need to find other polyamorous people or find swingers, but I don't like that either. There is nothing wrong with finding another polyamorous person. But I just don't want that to be my only avenue. I realize that not everyone will be open to the idea of someone being married and in an open relationship but I do not like the fact that I have to go though such extreme measures to find someone while it seems like my wife can walk down the street and find someone in a snap. I am starting to get a little jealous of the fact that it is soo easy for her and she wants me to lie to girls, go to swinger parties or only find other polyamorous people in our community.
I love my wife and still support her but it doesn't sound fair when she is pretty much telling me that my options of finding someone else is extremely limited while it is not hard at all for her. I want to find someone and have a connection with other than my wife and it is becoming quite bothersome.
So what advice would you give a struggling new member to polyamory club.
My wife and I just started an open relationship a few months ago and I need some help and advice.
Prologue - Im 28 and my wife is 22. My wife and I have been married for two years. I am prior military and she is still serving. We both live in military base housing. She was the one who brought up the idea of an open relationship. After some time thinking about it and discussing it with my wife we started our open relationship. My wife seems to have a line of guys clawing at the door trying to get with her and it's quite understandable, she is beautiful, funny, and has a great body. She has had three partners since we started and I have been getting put down by women and it is very annoying.
My wife has no problem telling people that she is married and in an open relationship. Thinking like a young, single guy I probably wouldn't care that she is married either However when I tell girls that I am married and in an open relationship I get "oh...uhhh" and then it gets awkward from there or they stop talking to me. I am aware that I am going to get a few strikes before I get a hit but it is so easy for my wife.
My wife tells me to not tell them that I am married, that I live in military base housing because I am retired, which couldn't be further from the truth, or tell them I am living with a roommate on base housing, but I consider that lying. She tells me that I need to find other polyamorous people or find swingers, but I don't like that either. There is nothing wrong with finding another polyamorous person. But I just don't want that to be my only avenue. I realize that not everyone will be open to the idea of someone being married and in an open relationship but I do not like the fact that I have to go though such extreme measures to find someone while it seems like my wife can walk down the street and find someone in a snap. I am starting to get a little jealous of the fact that it is soo easy for her and she wants me to lie to girls, go to swinger parties or only find other polyamorous people in our community.
I love my wife and still support her but it doesn't sound fair when she is pretty much telling me that my options of finding someone else is extremely limited while it is not hard at all for her. I want to find someone and have a connection with other than my wife and it is becoming quite bothersome.
So what advice would you give a struggling new member to polyamory club.