Just wondering if anyone out there has experienced losing a close friend as a result of opening your relationship/practising poly.
My husband and I are recently opened our marriage of 8 years, and my first outside interested was with a mutual friend of my sister-in-law and I. There was a social gathering recently where my husband, SIL and I were sitting together, and the other man came and sat with us. My husband took him aside and asked if he would mind sitting somewhere else for the meal since it was a primary-relationship outing/event. That went over fine, but the SIL is furious at me because SHE wanted the other friend to sit with us. Sorry if this is convoluted, I hope I'm being clear.
Anyway, my question is how would you handle this situation? The three people involved in the "triad" dealt with it all just fine, but the uninvolved, fourth party is now angry and being passive-aggressive about it. How do I validate her feelings but also set a boundary about my life choices?
Any input is welcome!!
My husband and I are recently opened our marriage of 8 years, and my first outside interested was with a mutual friend of my sister-in-law and I. There was a social gathering recently where my husband, SIL and I were sitting together, and the other man came and sat with us. My husband took him aside and asked if he would mind sitting somewhere else for the meal since it was a primary-relationship outing/event. That went over fine, but the SIL is furious at me because SHE wanted the other friend to sit with us. Sorry if this is convoluted, I hope I'm being clear.
Anyway, my question is how would you handle this situation? The three people involved in the "triad" dealt with it all just fine, but the uninvolved, fourth party is now angry and being passive-aggressive about it. How do I validate her feelings but also set a boundary about my life choices?
Any input is welcome!!