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Please don't eat me alive I'm posting to ask for advice and guidance to learn..
So my man and I have been discussing having a triad. We have found a girl who is interested even. But I of course like to research everything to death before I make a decision and I have come across "the unicorn" and it's hunters. Now I'm worried. I don't want to make these mistakes.
Firstly my man wants it to be mutual but he also wants there to be alone time between each pair. (Him and me, her and me, And them). I'm jealous but it could work.
Then the girl tells me she knows we will always be together in some fashion so if it doesn't work she has no issue falling back. While I appreciate the sentiment this girl will be bringing her children to another state into my home (we have known her for years already) I just don't want her to feel left out and decide to fall back. I told her this. She said she can't believe I'm willing to share him and I'm like he's not a prize And it's supposed to benefit all 3 of us. Soo...
Even if her and I don't click in a romantic aspect we can be bffs. I know she's crushed on my man for years and he picked her so I assume they will be fine.
He and i tried an open relationship with no luck but this gives us a little more security with the one person. Besides pretty much I'm like don't lie to me and Idgaf what you do. And I'm a monogmas creature by nature so I didn't do well trying to date.
I just don't want to make a mistakes and try to fit her into a slot we've created and I don't want her to feel left out. I need advice and guidance. I am not even that into women so if her and I aren't sexual it's fine with me and she's ok with that too. But if she wants to try I will try to make it more than platonic for her and I. I want everyone to be happy. Please don't eat me alive I'm open to advice and learning.
So my man and I have been discussing having a triad. We have found a girl who is interested even. But I of course like to research everything to death before I make a decision and I have come across "the unicorn" and it's hunters. Now I'm worried. I don't want to make these mistakes.
Firstly my man wants it to be mutual but he also wants there to be alone time between each pair. (Him and me, her and me, And them). I'm jealous but it could work.
Then the girl tells me she knows we will always be together in some fashion so if it doesn't work she has no issue falling back. While I appreciate the sentiment this girl will be bringing her children to another state into my home (we have known her for years already) I just don't want her to feel left out and decide to fall back. I told her this. She said she can't believe I'm willing to share him and I'm like he's not a prize And it's supposed to benefit all 3 of us. Soo...
Even if her and I don't click in a romantic aspect we can be bffs. I know she's crushed on my man for years and he picked her so I assume they will be fine.
He and i tried an open relationship with no luck but this gives us a little more security with the one person. Besides pretty much I'm like don't lie to me and Idgaf what you do. And I'm a monogmas creature by nature so I didn't do well trying to date.
I just don't want to make a mistakes and try to fit her into a slot we've created and I don't want her to feel left out. I need advice and guidance. I am not even that into women so if her and I aren't sexual it's fine with me and she's ok with that too. But if she wants to try I will try to make it more than platonic for her and I. I want everyone to be happy. Please don't eat me alive I'm open to advice and learning.