Well here I am
I am anxious and pleased to be here part of a community I feel I belong to . Hoping it will be a place I can find resources and support at making my relationships quality for all involved with.
I am in a mono/open relationship with my husband. I being poly in "theory" for many years but only being open for several years. I find my situation quite similar to the newbie on here Nori but I have been "dating" for several years but in a somewhat series relationship with someone outside of my marriage for a year now. However, now I have a primary relationship that has developed over the past six months . As for my husband, he has chosen that he is willing to acknowledge I want to have a separate life on its own but doesn't want to know any aspects of that, in other words denial. My greatest hopes are that his attitude will change and he will see the advantage of being open and honest about all aspects of our relationship, but for now as long as our relationship stays as a traditional marriage, my relationship's are mine privately and just a separate life . I think he acknowledges that since this decision to let me have some privacy to go do "my own thing" our relationship has improved and is strengthened although I don't agree. This agreement goes against all my virtue and my desire for openness and the practice of complete honesty. So I hope those issues can be addressed on another thread I see is available.
I do have to credit my Primary outside relationship for my outreach here all beit indirect. Our relationship is only six months old, is young, calculated and in depth. It is very young and new and slow. I have been in a relationship with someone for a year now but not the connection or depth that I have developed with this relationship. He has been in an open marriage for several years now and I am beginning to think ours is the most in-depth he has had as well.
He has directed me to a few links and books on the subject but since then I have immersed myself in the subject hoping that we can both make our lives and our other relationships involved more joyful and productive for all. I am finding his communication skills abit lacking compared to what I thought for being in an open relationship marriage longer than I.
I currently have come across resources that are helping me more than others he has guided me too and although popular in the poly community, sources he has not known so suspecting he's not as immersed as I thought. I am currently reading, More Than Two by Franklin Veaux. It is giving me motivation and inspiration that relationships can succeed and be strong with proper communication. I am hoping to get some advice on my Primary's communication style on here on some other thread if someone would so kindly guide me to. I realize communication is the essential of success of poly relationships and I'm thinking he and I and all involved could use some fine tuning. His communication skills are driving me batty to say the least and could cause some conflict with someone sometime .
That being said. I have made my introduction and hope I followed all guidelines for introducing my situation and why I am here.
Peace to all.
I am anxious and pleased to be here part of a community I feel I belong to . Hoping it will be a place I can find resources and support at making my relationships quality for all involved with.
I am in a mono/open relationship with my husband. I being poly in "theory" for many years but only being open for several years. I find my situation quite similar to the newbie on here Nori but I have been "dating" for several years but in a somewhat series relationship with someone outside of my marriage for a year now. However, now I have a primary relationship that has developed over the past six months . As for my husband, he has chosen that he is willing to acknowledge I want to have a separate life on its own but doesn't want to know any aspects of that, in other words denial. My greatest hopes are that his attitude will change and he will see the advantage of being open and honest about all aspects of our relationship, but for now as long as our relationship stays as a traditional marriage, my relationship's are mine privately and just a separate life . I think he acknowledges that since this decision to let me have some privacy to go do "my own thing" our relationship has improved and is strengthened although I don't agree. This agreement goes against all my virtue and my desire for openness and the practice of complete honesty. So I hope those issues can be addressed on another thread I see is available.
I do have to credit my Primary outside relationship for my outreach here all beit indirect. Our relationship is only six months old, is young, calculated and in depth. It is very young and new and slow. I have been in a relationship with someone for a year now but not the connection or depth that I have developed with this relationship. He has been in an open marriage for several years now and I am beginning to think ours is the most in-depth he has had as well.
He has directed me to a few links and books on the subject but since then I have immersed myself in the subject hoping that we can both make our lives and our other relationships involved more joyful and productive for all. I am finding his communication skills abit lacking compared to what I thought for being in an open relationship marriage longer than I.
I currently have come across resources that are helping me more than others he has guided me too and although popular in the poly community, sources he has not known so suspecting he's not as immersed as I thought. I am currently reading, More Than Two by Franklin Veaux. It is giving me motivation and inspiration that relationships can succeed and be strong with proper communication. I am hoping to get some advice on my Primary's communication style on here on some other thread if someone would so kindly guide me to. I realize communication is the essential of success of poly relationships and I'm thinking he and I and all involved could use some fine tuning. His communication skills are driving me batty to say the least and could cause some conflict with someone sometime .
That being said. I have made my introduction and hope I followed all guidelines for introducing my situation and why I am here.
Peace to all.