RichardInTN
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But if you are just seeking play partners why condemn the whole scene for lack of intimacy? That would be like me looking for one night stands and then complaining they don't lead to marriage.
Don't get me wrong, I am all for experimenting and getting to know one's self. My question wasn't meant to be judgmental. I was just seeking clarification because it seemed like "okay I tried this, now I'm going to try something else".
Exactly. Maybe she tried "only play partners" with honest intent... and only after giving that a go for a while finally realized that that wasn't what she wanted. She might not have known what she wanted to start with... just knew that not having whatever it was was "leaving a hole in her soul" (for lack of a better way to phrase it).
The way you are saying it comes off as if you are saying "if you wanted poly, you should have just gone poly"... maybe she didn't know that that's what she wanted. That's all I'm saying.